rainfallz t1_j8hgiqh wrote on February 14, 2023 at 9:46 AM

You should have been honest with Sabrina from the get go, at least found a way to tell her yourself sooner.

The rest depends on your behavior - were you explicitly platonic with your ex fuck buddies? Then she is projecting her own insecurities on you and that's not ok.

Did you remain flirty and sexual with them? In that case it is on you. You don't have to cut all ties with Jake and Lena, just make it clear that anything sexual that happened between you is in the past and your relationship from now on is strictly platonic. And act like it.

itsallminenow t1_j8hh3ct wrote on February 14, 2023 at 9:54 AM

The fact that Sabrina had strong enough suspicions to broach the subject suggests that it was apparent, eventually.

bibbiddybobbidyboo t1_j8hnafj wrote on February 14, 2023 at 11:21 AM

I was thinking this too. Was it that they had smaller interpersonal space but otherwise a genuinely platonic friendship that tipped her off or were Jake and Lena deliberately dropping hints or even trying to mark OP as their territory? I was originally thinking the former but if they are now going on about him choosing some girl over them, I wonder if they deliberately or accidentally in purpose sabotaged things to get their triad back.

Mediocre_Ant_1638 t1_j8hi04x wrote on February 14, 2023 at 10:07 AM

What confused me about that is, had she brought something up before about weird behaviours or is this the first time? Had sexual history ever been a discussion between these two? Past partners etc?

I may be overthinking it, but I've always been someone who has these discussions early and found that it works out well for me.

Sergio_82 t1_j8hrayy wrote on February 14, 2023 at 12:09 PM

While I was reading thought Sabrina would join the trio but since it’s a tifu post I remembered there won’t be a happy ending ( no pun intended)