Co-sign on the above. I’ve got scars on the outside and inside and was very nervous before talking about them with the woman who is now my wife. But over time, she assured me that the scars were a part of me. My history. And they were signs that I survived and persevered. And eventually I started seeing them that way too.

Highly recommend therapy. It’s useful when you find the right person who can help you put your past in order and then in the past. But scars never define you negatively. They only ever mean that you survived something really, really tough. And that just makes you a badass.