Artheon t1_j9yb652 wrote on February 25, 2023 at 1:30 PM

Your boyfriend is 100% correct that your scars are a possible means of verification. When asked by the doctors/police/coroner, if they are obvious, regardless of the cause, they are good identification marks. You should be glad that your boyfriend can think rationally about such a thing, this type of thinking makes one better at life.

You decided how you reacted, and you freely admit to KNOWING he meant no offense, and yet you still are punishing him. You have emotional scars, these scars are manifesting in you being emotionally abusive to your boyfriend by withholding affection.

https://themendproject.com/emotional-abuse-withholding/

You want to fix this? Then change how you are treating your boyfriend, then find a good therapist who can help you process your past trauma.

Mechanists t1_j9yp7ak wrote on February 25, 2023 at 3:24 PM

I had to learn this the hard way because at one point I was the one doing this to my own family. Your own trauma does not give you excuses to treat people in a certain way, just remember that. Please don't take it out on undeserving people, you will only push them away over time, when they really did love you.

Throwawaymybrain18 OP t1_j9z6asd wrote on February 25, 2023 at 5:20 PM

I'm not treating him any differently aside from not showering with him. I'm not taking any emotions out on him it was moreso his words catching me off guard like I explained. I am not punishing him I'm just saying I didn't know how to get it to stop bothering me. Please read a little more before assuming I'm being emotionally abusive to my boyfriend. Thank you