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member_of_the_order t1_j9xvuhn wrote

Just because someone doesn't mean to be hurtful doesn't mean you have to ignore that it hurt.

Earlier today, my wife accidentally hit my face with her elbow when she reached for something. I didn't blame her and still think the world of her, but ya know, if my nose were bleeding, I'd go take care of it.

You're probably feeling very vulnerable and insecure right now. Be aware of that and do whatever you have to do to be comfortable. That doesn't mean you think your bf is a bad person. Recognizing that you're hurting is not the same as blaming the person or thing that hurt you.

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Throwawaymybrain18 OP t1_j9z8dw7 wrote

Thank you I actually really needed to hear that <3

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Throwawaymybrain18 OP t1_j9z8fhw wrote

Also, I hope your nose is okay!!

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member_of_the_order t1_j9za8dn wrote

Haha thanks! My nose is fine :P

You're learning this about 10 years earlier in your life than I did, but - to paraphrase my therapist - you always have to validate your feelings.

Sometimes, what you think and what's logical is not the same as what you feel. You can change what you think of the situation, but it's not healthy to fight how you feel.

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Throwawaymybrain18 OP t1_j9zbqln wrote

Well good! :)

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And thank you! TBH I'm probably going to ss that because I don't really consider that enough and forget I'm not a robot. I try to be logical more than understanding my emotions and sometimes it backfires on me lol

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