Any-Individual-4046 t1_j9h0vq3 wrote on February 21, 2023 at 10:33 PM

i read the update where you said:

> A bit upsetting that people assumed our relationship was on the line over this. I never predicted that to be the case, as him and I have an extremely healthy relationship.

but earlier you did say

> And now I'm worried I destroyed our relationship over my dumb decision.

doesn't it mean that you also thought your relationship would be over?

Bee-Banana OP t1_j9h5vlv wrote on February 21, 2023 at 11:06 PM

In writing that post, I was very distraught because I hurt someone I loved. I believe I exposed a deep fear that combatted my logic. Logically, I knew I mattered more to him than that. However on the illogical reactive side, My reaction was out of fear of his anger response, and hanging up on me. This isn't something he regularly does. It was another shock.

(Would also note that I'm not afraid because of him. He isn't scary and never intends to be scary, but I do fear the emotion anger in general).

Tl;Dr my brain wasn't being logical and I was typing out of emotions, ignoring obvious truths such as the healthiness of our relationship