Hot-Tone-7495 t1_jadic8t wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:35 PM

Reply to comment by Odd_Ad_5639 in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

So maybe make an effort to stop being scum instead of being… whatever this is?

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadijjr wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:36 PM

I’m trying to do what I think is best for my daughter.

It’s not perfect and unfortunately it hurts my wife but it’s the best I think I can do

Hot-Tone-7495 t1_jadkr7h wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:50 PM

What’s best for your very young daughter is to be with her mother. If you truly want what’s best for your baby, try talking to your wife about maybe relocating in the same country. Work something out, but a kid that young needs it’s mother.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadmxk8 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:03 PM

Wife is relocating to her country. That’s non negotiable unfortunately. Daughter is young now but i need to make the decision based on her whole life not her current age

Hot-Tone-7495 t1_jadpita wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:20 PM

Sigh. I’m really sorry you’re this way. If your account of this story is this bad I can only imagine your wife’s side.

You have an opportunity to change, you really do. But the entirety of your responses are “my hands are tied I guess, I know I’m an asshole but gosh darn it, I’m doing what’s best for me I mean my daughter!!

I really sympathize with your wife. You’re emotionally manipulative and you seem to know it but have no idea how to stop being that way. I hope this thread was at least a little bit of a wake up call for you because the one suffering the most by your ignorance, is your daughter. Good luck dude, I really hope everyone in this situations lives improve

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadpwzt wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:22 PM

I’m being 100% honest so my wife’s side is probably not too dissimilar from mine.

I’m as fked up as it sounds, but I can only try to do what’s best from here for my daughter

Hot-Tone-7495 t1_jadq71s wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:24 PM

Again “my hands are tied”. You seem self aware only of your past mistakes but not of the ones you’re currently making. Which is probably why you cheated a second time after feeling “so much remorse”.

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jadr0qe wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:29 PM

My hands are not tied. I am making the best decision I can for my daughter. Unfortunately it hurts my wife.

I hate myself for what my wife has to go through but I need to put emotions aside and see what is best for my daughter