Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad80qc wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:29 PM

Reply to comment by DeaconKnight in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

Thank you for your considered response.

You are right. I have no say in what happens to my relationship with my wife. I will regret this until the day that I die and I will never meet anyone who I love more (I plan on being 100% with anyone I meet in the future anyway so there is zero possibility of me dating let alone marrying anyone)

I completely understand the hatred I’m getting and it is all accurate. I am a horrible human who has made grave mistakes with terrible consequences that I will never be able to fix.

If my wife leaves the country I will 100% not be able to have any contact at all, ever. Shared custody is completely out of the picture so as much as I’d love to come to an arrangement, i don’t deserve it and it won’t happen anyway

AnimatorDifferent116 t1_jaeidqo wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:23 PM

Why do you think you can't have ANY contact at all?? I'm just curious.... have you murdered somebody in her home country, and the police is after you? Haha. Even if her parents hate you, you can still be in the picture. I dont think any country can remove visitation rights without a solid reason. My colleague's ex is an addict and criminal, and even he gets to see the kid every week

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jaekm7l wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:37 PM

Rule of law isn’t as strong in every country. Just because it’s law doesn’t mean you can enforce your rights.

In the country in question I have, based on credible multiple sources, I will have essentially 0 ability for visitation

AnimatorDifferent116 t1_jaemht1 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:50 PM

Then, unfortunately, your wife has to stay here to keep the kids. She can't take the kids out of the country without your permission. It's the law, at least in most Western countries. She has to stay, and you HAVE TO support her financially so she can keep the kids. Especially the newborn.....you'll have only visitation rights for less than two hours at a time as the baby would need to feed. Talk to her with reasons that this is the situation and you'll do your best to support her and the kids.... but she has to stay here... it sucks... I feel for her. You messed up big time... pregnancy with STI is dangerous and high risk... you even put your unborn child at risk with your mistake. Just be as kind as you can be from now on... you caused a lot of pain..