Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacvocp wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:08 PM

Reply to comment by NihilisticThrill in TIFU by cheating on my wife a second time by Odd_Ad_5639

No offence taken. There are no words to describe how horrible I have been.

I honestly think that I could be a good father for my daughter still. I know that anything I say sounds ridiculous after what I did but I honestly think I could give my daughter a good life

Ocean_Spice t1_jacx7iv wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:18 PM

What part of cheating on her mom makes you a good father?

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jacxmhs wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:21 PM

Everything I feel and everything I’ve done apart from that

Ocean_Spice t1_jad4hcv wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:06 PM

Oh, sure. Cheating on her mom and blowing up her whole family and potentially throwing her life deep into turmoil is a wonderful dad move because you feel bad now. Bro, what??

Odd_Ad_5639 OP t1_jad58gr wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:11 PM

I can’t take back anything I’ve done. I will regret it until I die. Nobody will be ever believe me (and I can’t blame them) but I love my daughter very much and I would take good care of her.

I hate that it will hurt my wife but I honestly believe I can give a better upbringing than my wife all things considered.

There will be hurt and turmoil. I will be to blame. My shame is eternal

OurMasterAM t1_jacwyy4 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:16 PM

You could give her a good life - but could you give her the best life she can have?

It sounds like the mother is better at caring for her, and she's more attached to her mother. It may be a "if you love her, let her go" situation - let her life with the parent that'll give her the best life. Ask the wife if you can pay child support, so that way you can take some of the burden off your wife and support your child.