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Leviathan41911 t1_j9h8l8u wrote

Don't feel bad or inadequate. None of it was your fault.

Don't feel bad about yourself either, since he was cheating with another man it's possible he was craving something you had no way of giving him. (Not an excuse for cheating) my point is that you don't need to feel bad about yourself because he was wanted to be with a man, and that has nothing to do with you and is in no way your fault.

Do your best to compose yourself and confront him. Get your answers and decide what you want to do.

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AllYouNeedIsATV t1_j9hx92i wrote

“Craving something you had no way of giving him” is a stupid ass take and contributes to the narrative that bisexual people are always cheating

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Leviathan41911 t1_j9i9gpn wrote

On the contrary, I said it's not an excuse for cheating... pretty blantly. I also never stated bisexual people always cheat, never said that once. I was saying she needs not feel insecure in herself because he wanted something she didn't have and she has no reason to feel bad or guilty about that.

I'm not sure where you're getting the context that you are implying from other than it feels like you're trying to be defensive for the sake of being offended.

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AllYouNeedIsATV t1_j9iufy8 wrote

Craving something you had no way of giving us implying that because your partner is missing a body part you may like, you will always be craving it? So if you’re bi and with a woman, you’ll saying they’ll always be craving a dick and if you’re with a man, they’ll always be craving a vagina? Is that not implying the bi person is always looking to cheat?

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HugeBrainsOnly t1_j9jzwrg wrote

You inferring something does not mean that thing was implied.

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Leviathan41911 t1_j9ixfgp wrote

No it's not. It's also not at all what I said. I said him and you changed him to all bi people.

I never said all bi people, I said it was him it was his issue. Never once did I say it was a trait that all bi people have.

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Majorlagger t1_j9j4a02 wrote

No. Thats not what they said at all, you can choose to infer meaning, or actually read what they wrote. Which was that it is NO excuse for cheating. Their entire post was obviously centered around OP not feeling inadequate or lacking. It was clear it was put in as a possible reason for this man cheating, reasons are not excuses. And the man is still absolutely at fault. It was important to say this because many people in OPs shoes would feel like they where part of the problem or feel insecure.

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