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wordscannotdescribe t1_j80c1iu wrote

Reply to comment by letmeseesubreddits in TIFU by spending the night at my boyfriend’s by [deleted]

If you don’t mind me asking, when did your mom’s drug abuse issues start? Was it around your age?

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letmeseesubreddits t1_j80cx6q wrote

it was around my age, i believe. it’s been on and off her whole life but she’s tried for me as best as she can. we argue sometimes but it’s never been serious and i trust her just as much as she trusts me. she was a young mother from a bad past and got into some unsavory things. she’s trying her best even now and i’m really proud of her but my grandparents feel the need to kinda shove her nose in shit every day, if you get what i mean.

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wordscannotdescribe t1_j837qpg wrote

Got it. Your grandparents probably mean well and have good intentions - they don't want you unknowingly going down a similar path as your mom (which would arguably be worse, since they won't be around as long). That's not to say that your grandparents did right here. They still overreacted. Hopefully, you can explicitly show to them that you're going down a good path. That might honestly be things like introducing your boyfriend to your grandparents over a dinner.

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[deleted] OP t1_j80e8yc wrote

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ThatITguy2015 t1_j80kokh wrote

Which is probably going to force a cycle. They don’t understand how to properly handle things.

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Bubba-jones t1_j80n9n2 wrote

Key difference. OP sees it coming. And they will be dead soon.

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nucleosome t1_j80gfj9 wrote

Exactly. My parents went through a similar scenario with my sister, except that she has 4 kids and they were much younger. They have been dealing with the fallout from her addiction issues for years.

In the end they gave up about 12 years of life, unbelievable amounts of money and time. And still, any day she could relapse and start it all over again.

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