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LigerXT5 t1_j9kbdgu wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Apple is convinced my dog is stalking me. A vital AirTag safety feature is incorrectly notifying me every day. by MayoFetish

I haven't had an Apple phone since the 3G way back in 2009, so my understanding is well out of date.

Can you not "link" two accounts together to show both are related/together/married/etc. for stuff like this?

I'd hate to be walking around my own house, and be notified I'm stalked by my wife's purse.

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GummyKibble t1_j9kld67 wrote

No, you can’t. My wife and I share our locations with Find My Friends, so it’s not like we don’t know where each other are anyway. And yet if I grab her keys off the counter to run to store, my phone gripes about it. I really wish my phone would:

  • Let me to add a specific device to an “allow list”, like “don’t warn me about this device again because I don’t care if my wife’s car key knows where I am”.
  • Warn me about trackers not registered to someone I’m already sharing my location with. I don’t care if my wife tracks me. She already is anyway, and vice versa, and it’s consensual.

Air Tag hardware is genuinely great, but it’s so limited by the risk that someone might misuse it that Apple made it hard to use correctly.

And no many times I hear the tired party line that “it’s only meant for misplaced personal items”, they’re perfect for other things like tracking stolen bicycles — or pets. I roll my eyes when people are shocked, shocked!, that anyone’s surprised when someone hangs one on their dog’s collar. “It’s not meant to track your pet, even though it’s almost like someone custom designed it to be absolutely perfect for that use!”

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navlelo_ t1_j9kmp79 wrote

I have the same issue. It shouldn’t be hard for Find My to note that users I’m already sharing my location with don’t gain any information from seeing my AirTags.

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bubblesaurus t1_j9mkj98 wrote

It’s why we returned them in the end. I really wanted to use them for the dogs, but when they are limited to one person, it makes them moot.

If the dogs got out when I wasn’t home but my brother is, then he can track the beasts down

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phoenix1984 t1_j9kpwrz wrote

I think this is the easiest fix. It’d be great if there was a way to share the AirTag with family, but at very least don’t alert when I can already see that person’s location because of their phone or watch.

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MayoFetish OP t1_j9kchp0 wrote

The account linking would be the solution but it doesn't exist yet.

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LigerXT5 t1_j9kczuf wrote

Still brainstorming, another idea I'm thinking through is telling the app said tracker is permitted. How is a good question. Either...

A. I would hold the tracker in question, hit the button on the tracker when the screen prompts, and permits it to be near you. That way the user can't ignore all of them, and not be aware of the tracking, and the user knows exactly where the tracker is physically.

B. I could permit the tracker, but I have the enter the tracker owner's ID (email address or something). Again, allows the user to permit the tracker, and there's still no question that the user knows of the tracker, and who it belongs to.

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Impressive_Insect_75 t1_j9kh3tb wrote

How is that different from your partner keys? Do you get alerted every time you drive together to Costco?

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earthwormjim91 t1_j9lesmt wrote

AirTags only notify you if an AirTag that isn't yours is following you without the owner nearby. So riding together it wouldn't notify that it's following.

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LigerXT5 t1_j9kpkt3 wrote

Considering I don't have any trackers, and I'm going off what Apple advertises, lists in their online information, and common issues people discuss on Reddit (which in itself is questionable to include, lol)...

The only different in this case is the owner, in this case my wifi, is within the same vicinity. My concern is when she's out, say at work when I'm not, and some of her tagged items are sitting at home when I am.

Let's say "Home" is flagged and the alerts don't come up. As mentioned, traveling. Let's say she left a tagged container/item in the car, and I take the car, it'd alert me. That's fine. Let me flag it as to be ignored (different ways as discussed by others and myself here). Or as one other mentioned, let's say I take my wife's keys to take the car, it'd be nagging me too.

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vanhalenbr t1_j9ksuvv wrote

It does. I have my wife in my family and I can see her and her devices on “Find My”…. But I cannot leave our dog AirTag as “family”.

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jrhiggin t1_j9khrkv wrote

Domestic violence situations come to mind. Carry this tracker or I'll beat the shit out of you.

edit: Domestic violence is brought up in the article.

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GrowDaddy t1_j9kh26m wrote

AirTags can't be used for stalking

or

AirTags can be shared with other people

Pick one.

Sharing AirTags creates a new situation where a woman could be forcibly stalked by their spouse that controls the Apple ID. You're basically creating an entirely new class of stalking, not to solve a problem, but to add a feature.

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No_Royal_4528 t1_j9kkf7m wrote

> You're basically creating an entirely new class of stalking, not to solve a problem, but to add a feature.

This is true, is there not some way to compromise? Like perhaps every once in a while, while X feet from the other partner's Apple-thingies the user gets prompted to make sure they want to allow them to track them still?

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GrowDaddy t1_j9ko72p wrote

The partner could tell they opted out when the tag stops moving. This comes down to risk/reward, lots of risk for Apple on anything related to privacy (stalking), but minor rewards (you can stalk your family pet).

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