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Poppinfloss t1_j3v9wec wrote
This dude let this dude do it if you scared. Then come out later when you ready cause we need this kinda community.
lemler3 t1_j3ukmwm wrote
he should just send in a female teacher, why is he walking in himself?
VaderTower t1_j3uzhpc wrote
Absolutely. Incredibly inappropriate, as a man you're conditioned to know the boundaries, and you do everything in your power to make sure nothing you do even SEEMS suspect.
I'll not assume the worst, at the least he needs to take some boring hours of HR mandated training until it's burned in his skull.
rosetintedglases t1_j3uhdwr wrote
I think if something feels weird, and the girls are complaining, then something is weird. In the words of my favorite murder "fuck politeness" and share with another female teacher that you vibe with and if they've heard the same from kids, you could go together to the principal
417sadboi t1_j3uiq59 wrote
You definitely should speak with your principal and/or superintendent about this. I am also a teacher and I'm pretty sure I'd be fired on the spot for going into a girl's bathroom for anything other than a life or death, emergency situation. It should not be different for an administrator. If true, that is wildly inappropriate.
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jackie_wiggiwoo t1_j3unkfq wrote
But if students are telling you directly then aren’t you required to say something? Fill out an anonymous CPS report.
SafeFrosting1819 t1_j3upvxt wrote
You are not wrong. Also an SPS staff and have been for a while. I’m racking my brain trying to think of the right person to contact to keep you from getting yourself in hot water. This is more complicated than most realize.
jackie_wiggiwoo t1_j3uqkqg wrote
What about the SPS Tip Line?
SafeFrosting1819 t1_j3uquzl wrote
“Simply call or text 417-319-2901, 24 hours a day, with safety concerns.” - SPS Tip Line. It’s calling school police so I’m sure they have caller ID, but your report / concern could probably be considered anonymous? Man, I hate this whole situation for you.
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blu3dice t1_j3urr5q wrote
As a school employee you're a mandatory reporter. People have been criminally prosecuted for failure to report.
Durden196 t1_j3v1nes wrote
There should be a way to report anonymously on the department of education website.
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Live-Associate-2911 t1_j3uoipb wrote
Mother of a child of that age. If it feels wrong please report it.
malevolentk t1_j3unwvw wrote
If you work in a school aren’t you a mandatory reporter?
If the girls are creeped out then it’s an issue
Does SPS have an anonymous reporting system? Have you talked to Dr Lathan? She does not strike me as someone to put up with this shit
mangogetter t1_j3vxz22 wrote
You might also reach out to Dr. Maryam. She can be a nightmare Karen but I think this is a case where her special skills would be useful.
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mangogetter t1_j3w3fsg wrote
I think this is a case where that right wing Karen energy could be weaponized.
Snekathan t1_j3uojy0 wrote
Definitely not an overreaction
If there is a situation where an adult needs to be in one of the restrooms, it should be an adult of that respective gender
I can’t imagine why a male teacher/administrator would ever put themselves in a situation like this that could lead to allegations anyway. Most adults I know that work with children are very careful with their boundaries just to avoid any accidental drama they don’t want
His actions are SUPER weird and it’s even worse if there are many girls reporting it- meaning he is making them feel uncomfortable.
AnEmptyBookcase t1_j3uj271 wrote
Gotta report it.
Spastic_pinkie t1_j3vgnin wrote
Former middle school janitor, definitely report it. Use u/bobone77 's help. He has no excuse for being in the girl's bathroom when he has plenty of female staff available to go in for him.
[deleted] OP t1_j3unzzr wrote
YOU ABSOLUTELY NEED TO REPORT THIS ASAP
EliGrrl t1_j3uqifo wrote
You’re a mandatory reporter. You need to report it. Is there not a confidential tip phone number you can call? This is not ok. Hell- DM me and I’ll report it.
(As an aside- isn’t this why we’re supposed to be scared of trans women?)
iSubjugate t1_j3vouqb wrote
Report it to the Title IX Coordinator. If they retaliate, you get a lawyer and never work again. The Office of Civil Rights (OCR) takes retaliation very seriously.
Here are SPS Policies:
WorldFoods t1_j3uiy41 wrote
This is not okay.
turbulance4 t1_j3ul5n1 wrote
Prove it first. Watch the asst principal and get evidence that he is doing this. It's probably true, but just taking the students' word for it leaves you open to vulnerability.
bobone77 t1_j3v3z8d wrote
No. Absolutely not. Not this teacher’s job to investigate. Make a report and let the investigators investigate.
brainkandy87 t1_j3vbevp wrote
Yep. This is workplace ethics 101. You don’t try and resolve it yourself or investigate it yourself. You report it and CYA.
[deleted] OP t1_j3uln2p wrote
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cassycuppycake t1_j3vdl7p wrote
There’s most likely already evidence. Most schools have cameras that are pointed towards each restroom.
Beginning-Narwhal-75 t1_j3ux1ee wrote
get this man out of here. if my kid was at that school i would start a riot.
PullinSlack t1_j3vaycx wrote
This shouldn’t be a question report him immediately. That’s an act that takes active thought so he knows exactly what he’s doing. The only way I would have posted on here about this would go put his name out there on blast because this is the exact type of thing that get swept under the rug if noise isn’t made. We don’t need another Nixa Junior assistant principal type case here.
ChaoticRainbow73 t1_j3vp4ui wrote
Go straight to the school board. If you feel uncomfortable doing it in person, call in an anonymous tip. But, PLEASE, report this immediately.
mslack t1_j3vfgfu wrote
Absolutely. This man is a groomer and a predator.
AbrasiveRake34 t1_j3vuz8k wrote
What about this is telling you hes a groomer? Hes obviously a predator. LOL
Separate-Finding-697 t1_j3vgn5k wrote
This better not be fake.
iSubjugate t1_j3vp0hs wrote
I sent you a message.
i-touched-morrissey t1_j3uo1wr wrote
Can you go into a stall and take a video thru the crack in the door?
AbrasiveRake34 t1_j3vv135 wrote
I mean it would be first hand account of him doing it lmao
Sk8ordie79 t1_j3vuued wrote
NOT making lite of this situation at all. Just curious how the "woke" will see this. If said administrator turns out LGBTQ etc... Someone will stand up for his rights. Seems like a story played out across the nation, and guess who loses. I'm not cool with it. Definitely wouldn't want my child in this situation. But there's someone going to bat for everyone out there, no matter the intentions
texsurfin t1_j3um61a wrote
Hate to be gross or insensitive but isn't that the whole issue with Trans using their preferred gendered restroom? Honest question.
[deleted] OP t1_j3umlkm wrote
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honeyliz03 t1_j3und1l wrote
get what you mean but there's a huge difference between trans folks doing their biz and leaving their gendered bathroom...and an asst principal going into the bathroom where young girls are with no intention of doing bathroom stuff.
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turbulance4 t1_j3unwp1 wrote
Why do you assume this has anything to do with trans issues?
Live-Associate-2911 t1_j3uoyoz wrote
Hate to be a dick or judgmental but I don't. You need a lot of attention to get by in life, right? HONEST QUESTION
FriendshipIntrepid91 t1_j3vufv5 wrote
Based on the page it's posted on, he might identify as a cat and need to use the litter box.
bobone77 t1_j3urrqp wrote
Retired SPS employee. DM me if you don’t feel comfortable reporting and I’ll report it. They can’t blackball me.