_ism_ t1_ir9j9py wrote on October 6, 2022 at 10:35 AM

Reply to comment by DebbieDunnbbar in Is it possible, under the table, to enroll someone else's child in school? And other bizarre questions about the absolutely infuriating situation I have stumbled into. by DebbieDunnbbar

Gosh that's great I'm glad you're helping them with that too. I hated the shot when I was a young woman and that's why I'm glad I found iuds and was able to make an informed decision. The shots and pills absolutely wrecked my body and I wasn't really informed enough to choose something else when I was that young.

DebbieDunnbbar OP t1_ir9m46z wrote on October 6, 2022 at 11:09 AM

She’s had a little trouble with the shot too. Maybe we should’ve suggested an IUD. We did kind of steer her away from pills and toward the shot. My wife and I were both paranoid about the pills because we both remember teenage girls in high school who were on them and ended up pregnant anyway (I guess from missing some or whatever).

Telegrand t1_ir9q9c6 wrote on October 6, 2022 at 11:53 AM

IUD's are a great form of birth control in this situation, but as a heads up, you or your wife should read up on the insertion process and the amount of pain it can cause. If you decide to go this route, advocate strongly for this young women and make sure the medical provider takes appropriate measures. It is often traumatizing for adult women, and in this young ladies current situation, the experience could be devastating. As in, she might avoid reproductive health care for a long time because of it.

_ism_ t1_ira6p74 wrote on October 6, 2022 at 2:08 PM

Well the IUD isn't Fail-Safe either but for people like me with ADHD I find it hell of a lot easier than remembering to take pills or go in every so often for that injection. The insertion process varies by person and provider of course. I don't think I would want to do it if I was 15 years old either. However at Planned Parenthood of Indiana were great and more gentle than the Jordan Valley gynecologist yanked out the first one to put in the second one. I'm going on a tangent here. Sorry. I guess my point is if I could go back with the knowledge I have today I would have picked an IUD but I had had several years of gynecological exam experience and was used to a speculum by the time I chose that. I think that's important for somebody considering an IUD for their first choice if they haven't been through a thorough exam yet it could definitely be traumatizing as a first intro