Chalkarts t1_j6l6b2t wrote on January 31, 2023 at 2:35 AM

Reply to comment by Blitzsturm in New study shows how mindfulness can benefit our romantic relationships: Mindfulness can help to enhance attachment security among romantic couples. The new findings deepen understanding of the longitudinal interplay between partners’ mindfulness and attachment style. by lolfuys

The “Here and Now” isn’t where relationships have trouble. It’s the “What was I supposed to do yesterday?” and “do we have plans tomorrow?” That make relationships hard. Now is easy, remembering yesterday is hard.

Blitzsturm t1_j6ldrm2 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 3:33 AM

That's a bit more of a generalization. The general premise is to have control over your own thoughts instead of having them pulled every which way.

creamonbretonbussy t1_j6momis wrote on January 31, 2023 at 12:38 PM

And if yesterday or tomorrow is relevant to now, then that's supposed to be included in your "here and now".

Chalkarts t1_j6mxzf8 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 1:59 PM

But I’ve slept since then so Yesterday is gone.