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From the article: New research seeks to understand what interventions may improve some of the destructive symptoms of narcissism. Researchers from the University of Maastricht investigated the consequences of exercises to induce two different types of compassion, self-compassion and compassion for others. Their findings indicate targeted interventions inducing feelings of compassion may work for some with grandiose or vulnerable narcissistic traits.

Grandiose and vulnerable narcissism are a pair of traits that result in behaviors that are damaging to the individual and those around them. Grandiose narcissism refers to a set of behaviors that can be characterized by arrogance, superiority and exploitation of others. Vulnerable narcissism is evident when individuals are extremely sensitive to judgment, lack self-esteem and are neurotic.

Those with the grandiose trait are likely to be unnecessarily competitive, denigrating, and manipulative in relationships with others. Those in relationship with people who experience vulnerable narcissism may deal with a person who plays the victim, is manipulative and lashes out emotionally or physically. Both grandiose and vulnerable narcissism are at greater risk for self-harming behavior.

What came to mind -

"Sympathy for the Devil" - Rolling Stones, 1968

Now how are earth do we get narcissists into dzogchen?

Narcissism is thinking more highly of yourself than others. Compassion / empathy is thinking of others before yourself. No surprise

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>The first is the self-compassionate mindset induction. [...] participants were asked to think about a situation that is currently difficult or painful for the[m]. They were asked to write about this even focusing on being mindful, kind and recognizing examples of common humanity.

>The other [was to] illicit feelings of compassion for others. Both of these assessments were writing prompts and asked participants to write at least 200 words.

Denigrating - criticize unfairly, belittle, speak badly of

What's that?

> Dr Kostas Papageorgiou, from Queen's University Belfast, says research shows that narcissists are often socially successful and undeterred by rejection and their craving for attention can make them "charming" and highly motivated.

Source: https://www.bbc.com/news/education-44601198

Interesting, but I would have assumed these kinds of exercises were already common when a therapist is engaging in sessions with a narcissist?

From my experiences, whatever compassion I am shown by the person in my life, who I believe struggles with NPD, it is always self-serving. This tiny write up doesn't seem to address this aspect.

The core wound of the person I have to deal with seems to be related to feelings of self worth. At times when I took these interactions as genuine change it always came back to bite me.

Currently I'm experiencing a different side of this person's compassion. It's odd, I don't trust it. However I truly do hope they're on the path to fixing themselves. Everything I've read and been told by experts is that it is extremely difficult to get narcissists to change.

I wonder how common narcissist that have both both traits are.

A school of Tibetan Buddhism.

It's also entirely off-topic, and the author of the comment should remove it since it has very little to do with the research at hand.

I'm not fond of the effects of NPD, but let's not compare them to devils.

Caring about others defeats self absorption… what a concept.

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Sorry. You're right.

Thanks for being chill. I never expect calm comment responses back.

I hope you have a beautiful day!

Tbh give anything a narcissist wants and things will go better.

That is something I was just thinking.

My father has textbook exhibited both since as far back as I can remember.

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This is the real answer. They’re nicer to be around when things are going their way and they make everyone miserable when things aren’t going their way.

Same, friend.

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Uhh maybe if you only see them once in a while but if you are in a relationship w them, close friend, boss, etc then you’ll always lose. The only way to win is to walk away and delete every form of contact w them.

Lucky for me I had a child w one. I’ve got stories for days that would blow your mind.

Then they always want a little more.

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Maybe a simple concept intellectually but self compassion and compassion for others is very nuanced and can come along with many things like empathy, validation, self-care, list goes on. Many people struggle with these things which can be very distressing for people and their relationships.

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If I am wrong please explain how. I’d love to have a discussion on this.

I notice that you didn’t mention anything about them being aware of their behavior and needing to take responsibility for it. Sure they may be at risk for self-harm, however i pose this question: How much compassion does one need to give before they themselves are at risk of self-harm or worse due to what you described being a risk of being around people with these types of disorder? If we aren’t holding them accountable, what good does any of what you said do anyone other than people knowing enough to stay away from them? I’m looking forward to a reply.

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