What you mean, may? This is obvious. I only consider competition that which is similar to me, that which offers an equivalent, but better thing. If my girlfriend cheats on me with a guy, I’ll think “what does this guy have that I don’t”. If it’s with a girl, the answer is obvious - it’s nothing to do with me. I can compete with another guy, I can’t ever compete with a gal, if that’s what the other person desires.

I’m not saying it’s excusable - we would probably break up either way. The difference is that if it was a guy, it would mess up with my head, like I would always feel like it was on me, that I wasn’t good enough, etc. if it was with a girl, it would be just… that’s what they want, and we’re incompatible. There’s nothing I could have done. Much easier on my mind, no doubt about it.