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thejml2000 t1_iy4zfp1 wrote

And this is why communication is key. If your partner has no idea why you’re stressed or depressed or lonely or whatever, they can’t help and you’ll just keep digging deeper and growing apart.

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allegate t1_iy6qsdm wrote

I’m in this post and I don’t like it.

I hate sharing why I’m stressed because it feels like a dumb thing to stress about so then I’m stressed all over again because why would I be worried about something so stupid that I can’t talk about it?

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Starcorncreak t1_iy6y4qb wrote

Frankly I don't even know why I'm depressed or lonely.

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Sagaru-san t1_iy6z0qn wrote

Then an option is to find someone that can help you figure and work it out. I suggest a professional, if it's possible for you!

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Starcorncreak t1_iy72jpv wrote

Yeah, not feasible for me. But I wish everyone else luck with that!

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mechapple t1_iy8x1et wrote

You wont. As Dr. Nesse indicates in his book "Good reasons for bad feelings", even your emotional state is dictated by gene-environment interactions, much of which might be outside your control.

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Sage009 t1_iy8q0nx wrote

I never share because the few times that I did, nobody ever took me seriously or actually tried to help so why bother?

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Larcombe81 t1_iya4psx wrote

Haha. Good thinking- until your partner responds differently to your hope/expectations and it further reinforces the sense of loneliness. It’s tricky.

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