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[deleted] t1_iy4udcm wrote

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tominator93 t1_iy5lsm0 wrote

I personally would adjust this statement as “making your own well-being a priority in your life”. This prevents you from falling into the trap of chasing some unattainable, vaguely defined notion of “happiness” as a “goal state” that the culture tells us we should be experiencing at all times. Something that I think is all too easy to do for most of us.

This approach also has the benefit of being much more actionable most of the time. “True happiness” is abstract. But If something is sapping your well-being, you usually can identify it with 2-3 minutes of honest reflection.

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dwittty t1_iy5nxtv wrote

I like this take. I think there’s also something to be said for taking some time during those 2-3 minutes of reflection to focus on what is bringing you joy and doing more of that. This way you can work toward enhancing the good as well as mitigating the bad.

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r0ndy t1_iy67glw wrote

If my kids are the ones creating the stress, can I just put myself first and leave them, please?

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habeus_coitus t1_iy6eb12 wrote

You could, but imo it’s different when there’s kids involved. No one forces you to have kids, and until they can fend for themselves they are wholly dependent on others for care. If you’re absolutely miserable and/or their welfare would improve with you out of the picture then so be it, otherwise you have an obligation to them to see them through to at least self-sufficiency.

Unless you were just telling a joke, in which case sure.

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r0ndy t1_iy7opqq wrote

Slightly facetious. Only slightly

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VicSara_696 t1_iy7jpfp wrote

Yes.. think of it as an oxygen mask, if in lets use stress as ‘the plane is going down’ then u take the oxygen mask once your ‘oxygenated’ then you are fully equipped to pass to your children and help them better… basically think of yourself first, if you go down u all go down!

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