greeneggsandstuff t1_isnbk9c wrote on October 17, 2022 at 7:14 AM

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You need a paradigm shift. The key to quitting anything is to understand you don’t need it to be well. That starts with healing from trauma then practicing living differently. Then you learn to not identify with that version of you. It isn’t the fundamental you; it’s a way of being that can be changed. Source I’ve quit smoking, drinking, and all drugs. All of which I’ve abused.

mickdeb t1_isntsvs wrote on October 17, 2022 at 11:26 AM

This was really an interesting take about it, i am actually quite a bit worried about my alcool consumption and i needed to read that today.

Thank you

greeneggsandstuff t1_isp83zd wrote on October 17, 2022 at 5:57 PM

You’re welcome :) When it came time for me to quit drinking (I worked on quitting for years) I told myself that if I wanted the alcohol, it would always be there, so not having it didn’t mean I would lose it forever. That sounds kind of weird, but what I was doing was finding a path out of the relationship with it, saying to myself I think I’m better without it, and maybe I CAN live without it, so I’ll give it a go to walk away for at least a little bit.

The result of that was realizing how bad the relationship between alcohol and body and alcohol and mind is. I believed I could never be without it in some form then I realized it was only my enemy. The ensuing mental clarity and physical wellness was more than I imagined it could be, and now there’s no way in hell I’ll ever go back. It’s just too good on the other side.

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isp9rnu wrote on October 17, 2022 at 6:08 PM

I’m really glad that was helpful for you to hear :) Whatever it is that you want to let go of, you can, and you will thrive because of it.

I remember growing up and hearing adults talking about quitting smoking. There were all these simple ways of thinking about it. “Well, it’s an oral fixation. You just replace it with suckers.” Or things like “It because it’s social. It’s hard to not go out for a smoke with your friends.” And that’s true to an extend for some, but what everyone was really afraid to see, to admit was that for many of them it was the internally festering trauma of their personal lives that kept them needing to smoke.

It’s the same with every addiction, and there is a path out.