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TrippieBled t1_isn5ze5 wrote

Reply to comment by RunRevolutionary9019 in Dieters are often the people encouraging their partners to overeat in a relationship, according to new research by MadScienceD

Im an emotional eater, any advice?

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isnbk9c wrote

You need a paradigm shift. The key to quitting anything is to understand you don’t need it to be well. That starts with healing from trauma then practicing living differently. Then you learn to not identify with that version of you. It isn’t the fundamental you; it’s a way of being that can be changed. Source I’ve quit smoking, drinking, and all drugs. All of which I’ve abused.

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mickdeb t1_isntsvs wrote

This was really an interesting take about it, i am actually quite a bit worried about my alcool consumption and i needed to read that today.

Thank you

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isp83zd wrote

You’re welcome :) When it came time for me to quit drinking (I worked on quitting for years) I told myself that if I wanted the alcohol, it would always be there, so not having it didn’t mean I would lose it forever. That sounds kind of weird, but what I was doing was finding a path out of the relationship with it, saying to myself I think I’m better without it, and maybe I CAN live without it, so I’ll give it a go to walk away for at least a little bit.

The result of that was realizing how bad the relationship between alcohol and body and alcohol and mind is. I believed I could never be without it in some form then I realized it was only my enemy. The ensuing mental clarity and physical wellness was more than I imagined it could be, and now there’s no way in hell I’ll ever go back. It’s just too good on the other side.

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greeneggsandstuff t1_isp9rnu wrote

I’m really glad that was helpful for you to hear :) Whatever it is that you want to let go of, you can, and you will thrive because of it.

I remember growing up and hearing adults talking about quitting smoking. There were all these simple ways of thinking about it. “Well, it’s an oral fixation. You just replace it with suckers.” Or things like “It because it’s social. It’s hard to not go out for a smoke with your friends.” And that’s true to an extend for some, but what everyone was really afraid to see, to admit was that for many of them it was the internally festering trauma of their personal lives that kept them needing to smoke.

It’s the same with every addiction, and there is a path out.

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RunRevolutionary9019 t1_isosd2c wrote

Read Geneen Roth’s books, go to one of her things if she still does them. Go to group therapy. Exercise moderately. Eat whatever you want. Refuse to judge yourself for anything you eat. Eat emotionally but if your going to do it do it full on. Comfort yourself for real and again refuse to guilt trip yourself about it. Say your name, that your happy with your weight, and your ideal weight ten times daily. Yoga is good. Chinese medicine helped. I think it sad also about my being done. I was over it and didn’t care if I ended up fat so I did whatever I was told. I gained twenty pounds and lost it again within a year and lost my urge to binge. Happy to talk. It’s been about 22 years since I let my eating disorder go.

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MiseALepreuve t1_isoatls wrote

Binge exercise. Keep only healthy, boring food in your house.

No one ever got fat on salad.

Or do the whole healthy emotional recovery others mentioned, but my way is easier

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dr-freddy-112 t1_isogfr0 wrote

Easier short term, less effective long term.

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MiseALepreuve t1_isokj1m wrote

I mean, how long term are we talking? It’s been effective for me so far, but obviously by the time I’m 50+ and can’t exercise as effectively I’ll need to have cemented good eating habits.

I find it far easier to deal with mental health issues when I’m physically healthy, though

Keeping only healthy food around is just good advice, tho.

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dr-freddy-112 t1_isokz4d wrote

My point is that the "healthy emotional recovery" part pays dividends long term because emotional eating is easier to control. It's also easier to form healthy exercise habits rather than "binge exercise".

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