I wasn’t cruel. I was matter of fact. There is a difference. I hold no I’ll will toward you. I’m very sorry for your friend and for your loss. Pregnancy is life changing and parenthood is something else. I have ptsd from my first and from my two miscarriages. All three were extremely traumatic and my first caused immense pain for months after. Luckily, my new guy popped out in seven minutes. I also had to spend three days in the hospital after for monitoring my blood pressure. It was wonderful. I ordered room service and watched Xfiles. Having a few days to myself before I had to deal with a toddler and a new born at the same time was great. I wish the US operated like Nordic countries. But alas...morons live here.