PMzyox t1_j87cqni wrote on February 12, 2023 at 4:36 AM

I never realized that such a normalized part of life would be so much work. Everyone I grew up with and everyone I know seems have been able to figure out how to make it work, but I can’t. And then I go down rabbit holes about stuff like this and I’m just like, how do people have time to do anything except for work on their marriages/lives. Because I’ll tell you, from the outside looking in, they all make it look easy. At least a lot easier than even the beginning stages has ever been for me

Bones_and_Tomes t1_j87u7fg wrote on February 12, 2023 at 7:48 AM

Most relationships keep the friction behind the scenes.

Dragonpuke56 t1_j88efu2 wrote on February 12, 2023 at 12:25 PM

There's a lot of theatrics going on with others that "make it easy." What going on behind the scene is a lot of effort and work put in. Nobody really talks about their disagreements with eachother openly. Or how they stressed about making sure they saved just enough money to afford rent. Or similar scenarios. A happy relationship does have its bumps.