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redditguy1974 t1_j8753gw wrote

Reply to comment by Imaginary-Ad-9397 in Large study provides evidence that goal incongruence can harm romantic relationship satisfaction by glum-platimium

>Maybe she wants to roam the world, but you wanna get settled, and you two agree on everything else. Is that a deal breaker ?

This was our exact situation. It should have been a deal breaker. We settled down. This was almost 19 years ago. I still don't think she's ever forgiven me for "ruining her plans to travel the world". It caused years and years of resentment, and left her in a major depression.

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Vagabond_Girl t1_j8780v5 wrote

Oh boy…you make me wonder about my own relationship. We’ve only been together 3yrs, but I know she always wants to explore the world, and I don’t have the traveling bug as much as her.

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redditguy1974 t1_j89c7gt wrote

I don't have any traveling bug any more. I spent over seven years of my career traveling. 60 international cities in 20 countries, and over 100 cities in the US, spending at least a week in each with plenty of time off. So I don't have any need to see any more. I am happy going, but I don't feel any need to. I'm much more of a home body and enjoy my time at home being productive.

I would tell anyone....if you are dating someone with true intent to travel the world, and you do not have that bug, you should break up. Because it will cause issues.

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