In a way I think this goes back to how we social ppl as children. Little girls derive satisfaction from play by relationships and sharing feelings. Little boys derive satisfaction from doing and building. Or least this is the gendered play we channel children into. Girls and women’s play is to find out what is up with their girlfriends. It just doesn’t feel like anything was accomplished unless we have delved into one another’s lives. To stop at I-am-fine, feels like a big failure for women. When there is beaning-counting and number-of-widgets-made, men feel I-am-fine, to be completely acceptable. Once physicians had to earn RVUs, there was an earth quake of difference in how treatment of mental healthcare was performed.