Submitted by nilsrva t3_10gt3fc in rva

I’ve never made a daily post, lets give it a whirl. Im in Flanders celebrating my Oma’s 93rd birthday in her 300 year old house. Crazy to think she was 15 when the war ended. Beer, frites, mussels, chocolate, and a functionless government.

Anyway, AMA, then I will ask you something.

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baddog1229 t1_j54k5iw wrote

What was she doing when she found out the war was over?

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nilsrva OP t1_j54kxai wrote

well lets remember the european theater was over earlier than the pacific; as she tells it one day the belgian army was going down the street, the next day they were going the other way down the street and then there were germans and no school for a long time. Her father was a gamekeeper on some vague noble’s land so they were mainly growing their own food and stayin in the woods. I think the largest change was that she went back to school.

She seems rather blasé about the whole thing really. I think post-war europe was more difficult for her.

Whats your favorite beatles song?

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BlueXTC t1_j54njw7 wrote

I loved living in Bruxelles. Good food, better food, great food. My high school hangouts were the bars around the Grand Place. I left for my senior year goodbye tour from Zeebrugge on a ferry to Dover on my hopped up 50cc Suzuki motorcycle. I found the Flemish people much more friendly than the Wallons in the area south of Bruxelles. That could have something to do with all the Americans living in the area around the city.

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nilsrva OP t1_j54o5o9 wrote

Bruxelles is the french spelling, it is a massive sore point amongst the flemish. My mother hates it but I have always been more partial to the dutch than the flemish, despite myself being flemish. It is telling that as a belgian I have been coming here my entire life, but beyond a single trip to the battle of the bulge I have never set foot in wallonia.

Really its two countries that despise each other taped together

Maar spreek je vlaams?

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BlueXTC t1_j54p3nk wrote

Neen and Dank je is the extent of my vlaams. I am from Montreal originally with Scottish parents so French was the option for me to learn. Cue Parisians telling me my accent was off. Having an EEC ID did make our life much easier than my American school mates. The gendarmes at the White Horse Inn at the Grand Place asking for ID cards on a Friday night . Blue (US) you stayed behind Yellow you were allowed to leave with no issues. I wonder what people in the US would think of officers with uzis standing in the pub checking IDs. This was in the mid to late '70s

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nilsrva OP t1_j54pour wrote

That’s interesting, after the Zaventem bombings it was surreal to see Belgian military with rifles in the train stations as Belgians are so unused to seeing guns, most police dont even carry them for nigh on 30 years now. What was the point then?

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BlueXTC t1_j54rofb wrote

I think it was more for the US audience though they did have them at traffic stops. We had a couple of bomb threats at ISB in Boitsfort. I think the non EEC community had a little more over site than the locals. We had an area referred to as the American Ghetto in Rhodes St Genes with the houses larger and all painted white.

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DefaultSubsAreTerrib t1_j54rxs4 wrote

Yesterday I learned that twin oaks is ending production of their fantastic tofu. I'm bummed, I don't know of a tofu that even comes close to the quality and firmness of twin oaks.

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ChuckBS t1_j54sp0f wrote

Congrats to your Oma! How’s Flanders?

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nilsrva OP t1_j54t2fh wrote

Cold and calm. I always equate it to The Shire and Belgians very much like Hobbits. They have their creature comforts and are a bit grumpy, gossipy, and petty; but overall a lil bit adorable and sweet.

Whats your favorite non-RVA place in Virginia?

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ChuckBS t1_j54tg9o wrote

Oof…. that’s tough. A couple of times in the summer we go to VA beach for the day, and VA beach as a town is exactly what you’d expect. However, that northern part of the beach away from the boardwalk is basically where I learned that I love the beach and swimming in the ocean. So that, I suppose.

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donniedarkhair t1_j54tk3f wrote

What's your best piece of travel advice?

I had to start traveling a lot for work a little over a year ago but it still hasn't clicked for me.

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Jon_hamm_wallet t1_j54tkvw wrote

How'd you entertain yourself on the flight over? I can't sleep on planes so I'm always bored out of my mind, even when I pay for the in-flight wifi and watch a movie.

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Asterion7 t1_j54u30u wrote

Frites and mussels sounds wonderful. Happy birthday to the Lady.

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nilsrva OP t1_j54udt9 wrote

I take about 10 trans-atlantic flights a year, and a bunch of smaller ones. I havent watched a movie on the little chair screen in probably 8 years. I also have never really slept on a plane. I just cant.

My go-to is Civ V on my laptop. Its perfect if there is in-seat power which my standard KLM 652 AMS-IAD usually has. I also generally download a show to my ipad as a back-up or read.

If all else fails I am not above just staring at the seat in front of me like David Puddy. Planes are a vortex of space and time, everything seems forever and then its over and the memory is basically erased. So I can just zone out and essentially just be.

I just got a Switch, I’ll probably give that a whirl next flight.

What was your last flight?

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xTiredSoulx t1_j54uedy wrote

What is your Oma like? I had a German Oma and Opa and they were the best humans ever. I miss them so much.

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nilsrva OP t1_j54uuu2 wrote

Depends if you are domestic or international, I am assuming you are flying as well? If so pick an airline and stick with it, those perks really add up and make the whole thing enjoyable. I can not tell you how many times my fast-pass through Amsterdam security has saved my ass, as well as the private check-in. On top of that the lounge is nice.

As far as packing goes, light. I almost never go anywhere with more than a back pack. Why the hell would you need more than a weeks worth of clothes and why are you bringing your whole bathroom? How often have you been anywhere where you could not find toothpaste and soap? The only thing I stack up on is socks and boxers. All the socks.

Dealing with checked luggage is just adding time and weight at both ends. Unless you really need it, which is pretty much only for long trips, skip it.

Where you going?

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fr0bert t1_j54w9ut wrote

Do your always fly KLM? have they switched to narrow body A330/321 for transatlantic flights?? They're so much slower than the older jumbos, I regularly fly home to Ireland with Aer Lingus normally and it took 8 hours on the return leg this last time. Excruciating.

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Jon_hamm_wallet t1_j54wh23 wrote

We flew to Phoenix in the spring. It was fine. The longest flight I've ever taken was to Hawaii from Phoenix, I think it was 6 hours? It was the day after I got in a pretty bad bike accident so I was feeling like shit and sitting on the plane was absolute misery.

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molluskich t1_j54wm8h wrote

What's the best piece of advice your Oma has given you?

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TheCheeseDevil t1_j54wwdk wrote

What brought your family across the pond? I got kind of wistful this year when my mother finally managed to get e-mail contacts for all her English cousins. Turns out I don't actually have a very small family like I always thought, there are dozens of us over there- but one American military husband took us west. C'est la vie!

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GrayRVA t1_j54wyji wrote

Is your Oma’s house haunted like mine? This is funny timing but my Casper caused a loud “thump” in the kitchen a few minutes ago. He’d been quiet for weeks but announced his presence twice in the past few days: the “thump” in the kitchen and a loud sound of something falling off my bedside table near my head and hitting the floor. The bedside table one defies reality because there’s nothing on the table but my unscathed journal and a lamp.

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nilsrva OP t1_j54xi75 wrote

Always. Generally an A330-300. I also find that the stated flight times are given with a generous cushion and we normally come in earlier. But yes a little slower than the jumbo’s I flew in my youth.

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nilsrva OP t1_j54xqru wrote

Oh. 6 hours aint shit. Thats a movie and a long stare out the window. Cant account for injury though, you could have a host of strippers, unlimited cheescake, and champagne in 1st class seats and that flight would still be a bummer.

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nilsrva OP t1_j54y11c wrote

Translating here. “You know, the Dutch always say Belgians are stupid.. but sometimes, we really are stupid”

But nah in more practical terms, probably wash your face. That woman looks astounding for 93.

And your grandma? If you knew her

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geneb0322 t1_j54yuoc wrote

No questions, but Flemish red was my absolute favorite style of beer back when I drank. 10 years ago I would have been very jealous of your current position as it was really hard to find in the US.

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xTiredSoulx t1_j54zmco wrote

Horrible. Opa was drafted. Oma and her 2 tiny sons spent a lot of time in bomb shelters. Opa was injured in Russia, came home on leave, went back and was captured by the US and taken POW, taken to a camp in PA. He had been a butcher previously, which benefitted him. There was no word of all this sent home, so they assumed he was killed or MIA.He just showed up again one day after the war. Life postwar was unbearable but the stuck it out until 1953 and then came to the US.

Oma lived to be 88, not a grey hair on her head ever.

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MadameKravitz t1_j550q07 wrote

What a beautiful place! Are you in the city or countryside?

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Wa_wa_ouija t1_j550s2i wrote

Beer, frites, and mussels sound amazing.

Starting my weekend off at work and it is very chill right now. Trying to read this new book over the weekend.

Op have you read anything good recently you would recommend?

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nilsrva OP t1_j551p32 wrote

Well. They each have their own governments and languages so your joke doesnt really work here. We’re tearing ourselves apart within the same government and language. This is more like you made the US and Mexico the same country.

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tarhuntah t1_j552woj wrote

Stayed in a hostel in Brussels many years ago. Enjoyed the visit!

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ImmobilizedbyCheese t1_j552ymp wrote

This is how I feel about all the questions like "who is the new prime minister of some country i cant locate on a map and will never visit." I don't venture out of rva because last time i checked the news it was depressing.

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gribisi t1_j5538pm wrote

I lived in mons(SHAPE) for 6.5 years as a kid was fluent in flemish and French. Now I just just barely understand.. Happy birthday Oma!

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nilsrva OP t1_j556cv2 wrote

If you put some work into it I am sure it would come back quickly. I was great as a kid then lost pretty much all of it until my mid-20s when I put some effort in. Came back quick

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nilsrva OP t1_j55ajg4 wrote

Yeah dutch definitely is not very useful. I’d choose french if I was gonna re-learn one of the two you states previously. Unless you want to spend a lot of time in Flanders or Nederland

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nilsrva OP t1_j55bryi wrote

Shout out to none of you asking me art questions (with one reasonable exception)

Feels like a good date

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nilsrva OP t1_j55ct1v wrote

I always wondered why he was Flanders as a kid. Turns out it is a street in Portland, which I imagine may have its roots farther down in the region of Belgium.

Anyway, feels like Im wearing nothin at all

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puzzledsushi t1_j55gksb wrote

I’m aging into a love of old houses. What’s your favorite part of your Oma’s 300 year old house? What’s her favorite part?

I went to my first Girls Who Walk RVA event last night at The Park and had a lot of fun. I will say I went in determined to spend no money and they got…more than $0 out of me somehow. I’m usually stronger.

I almost didn’t go because I worried that most everyone would already know each other and I’d be the odd person out. I’m glad I took the chance because I met some great people. If you’re also tryna make friends, let this be your sign to be brave!

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37BrokenMicrowaves t1_j55he6r wrote

While walking this morning I was in the crosswalk and the light was well into being red for traffic when a van ran the light while I was in the intersection. Shouldn’t have pulled that in a work van, buddy! I called the number on the truck. If the cops won’t stop people from running red lights, maybe your boss will.

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carbonjen t1_j55ruig wrote

Have you had any Flander's Red Ale while there? It's one of my favorites. What is your Oma's favorite recipe or a recipe of hers that's one of your favorites?

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resident16 t1_j55vaev wrote

Feeling like I need a win today. Though everything work has said has been positive, kind of hard to not see all of the layoffs happening and get a little bit worried.

On the bright side, Day 20 of Dry January whoop whoop!

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WeetWoo97 t1_j560fll wrote

After the family visited town this week, I seem to have caught a classic head cold. Being sick sucks, especially since grad school classes started back up this week. Womp womp.

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molluskich t1_j562jrx wrote

I didn't know either of my grandmothers. One died when I was ten, the other when I was twelve. I mean I knew them but I didn't really know them if you know what I mean. Same with my grandfathers, only they both died before I was born.

I do have a set of grandparents who were my mom's foster parents when she was a teenager in the foster care system. That grandfather, before he passed away, gave me a love of foreign languages, playing instruments, and being a life long learner in general.

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NickPlaysDnD t1_j567kmh wrote

My question is whether your power is also out.

Hours has come in and out all morning, with the latest outage lasting for the last hour or so.

We're in north chesterfield, and I can't find any sort of explanation from dominion's website. Happy birthday to your Oma!

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stickynohte t1_j56ibo5 wrote

HBD to Oma!

What is your all-time favorite travel destination? And then what’s the top place on your bucket list?

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nilsrva OP t1_j56jk30 wrote

This is very tough. If I could snap my fingers and end up anywhere for an afternoon… the swiss alps. That shit is unreal. I did not think such beauty could exist in the world. It feels like visiting the elves.

But for a longer period of time… I have never not had fun in Prague. Yeah obviously Amsterdam is dear to my heart but that feels more like a home than a travel destination.

Utsira, Norway takes 2nd place for a day trip teleportation.

Top of my list… probably South Africa or New Zealand.

You?

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stickynohte t1_j56mgqv wrote

This is giving me wanderlust!

Sadly I’ve never owned a passport. But domestically, Austin, TX was phenomenal.

As for my bucket list: tracing my roots in Ireland! Seems that the majority of my lineage traces to Donegal. Probably worth popping over to Glasgow for the Scottish ancestry too.

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ExpensiveSyrup t1_j57q0mv wrote

I've just finished listening to the podcasts Uncanny and The Battersea Poltergeist, and now listening to The Witch Farm. All BBC productions with the same (amazing) host, and I am super spooked. My SO keeps "sneaking up" on me by walking into the room, lol, poor guy. I can't imagine having an actual Casper. Would you be willing to share some more stories? I am fascinated. Do you have any idea about the history of the house and who/what might be there and why? I am assuming friendliness since you've named it/them Casper.

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GrayRVA t1_j58ldvz wrote

Happy to oblige because I think the situation is pretty funny and I’d be intrigued too. It’s my first time experiencing a ghost/spirit/whatever. I wasn’t a believer before but like, what else am I supposed to do? There’s only so much I can ignore the footsteps going up and down the stairs when my cat is looking directly at the stairs and then back at me like “you hearing this shit?!”

So I assigned Casper a gender because he seems like a mischievous but usually fun guy. He makes a lot of racket in the kitchen, like random sounds. Once it was the sound of someone squeezing a Solo cup. Like, that’s a very distinctive sound unlike old house sounds or thumps. He also knocked a huge clock off the wall and I wasn’t thrilled to sweep up the glass, but that’s the worst he’s done. The bedside table incident this week was the closest to me he’s ever been and had it happened a few years ago, I would have lost my shit. But we’re cool now so I was like “well played, Casper” and rolled over.

The house was built in 1896. A longtime neighbor told me that a loooong time ago it was an unpermitted bar for gay patrons. Other than that lore, I don’t know anything about previous residents. It was a rental before I bought it in 2016.

So yep. That’s the scoop. A woman, her black cat, and a ghost all happily coexisting in Church Hill.

Edit to add: Nice to hear from you friend!!

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ExpensiveSyrup t1_j5afny2 wrote

That’s so cool and spooky too! I’m glad it doesn’t frighten you and Casper is friendly and keeps you and your cat entertained. :) I didn’t realize it was you until you said hi, that’s so neat, hi back!! I gave the ornaments and one of the wreaths as Christmas presents to my sister and best friends and they all loved them so much! I kept one of the wreaths for myself and I enjoy it every day. Hope you’re well, friend!

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BrinxJob t1_j5csbkp wrote

Heya nils! What's your favorite pizza?

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BlueXTC t1_j5nzxr7 wrote

Belgium was created out of an agreement between Catholic France and Protestant Netherlands. The area that is Belgium now was in dispute for decades. Strangely a German Prince of Coburg was made King, Leopold I. The court/royal palace and legal system was conducted in French. A Vlaams individual could go trial and never really understand anything going on in court. Vlaams citizens were treated as less than.

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