It's time for the Humpdaily thread!

Submitted by CopOnTheRun t3_y7zahg in rva

I feel a little too well rested for the amount of sleep I got last night, but I'm sure I'll be paying for it later today.

Anyone have any good mysteries or nagging questions that have been on your mind? Or just feel free to talk about your day~

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[deleted] t1_isxd3zr wrote

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plaidbirdbean t1_isxjzdk wrote

Ah, the classic snart. My husband did one of those on our first date.

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nuauldstalk t1_isym784 wrote

I lol’d way too loudly at this in the breakroom and had to read it aloud to my coworkers

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otepp t1_isxfy4v wrote

I just moved to Richmond, and I work right by the Canal walk downtown. I have the urge to get a cheap, low powered RC boat to take for a spin during my lunch breaks. I assume this is against 'Canal walk' rules, but I am curious how against the rules it is.

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jodyhighrola t1_isxjpjc wrote

People literally take over the streets with dirt bikes and ATVs with zero repercussions. Buy that boat, and have a great time.

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ScrambledSkrinks t1_isxwk7o wrote

What part of the canal? If you take it down to under the covered path under the train you're probably fine, I've seen people practicing kayak rolls over there. By the canal boat boarding area I'd think it's cramped and harder to access.

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Horror-Fisherman-575 t1_isxc7v3 wrote

I woke up feeling like a zombie. I might BE a zombie. I don’t want any brains though, so I guess I’m ok.

Here’s a thing: can you ever truly maintain a long lasting, deep, meaningful connection with someone with absolutely shit musical taste? I’ll try to be less condescending: how about, with someone whose musical and even cinematic taste, is vastly different from yours?

Like I feel like these things are tied to an overall worldview and are key components of a personality and those are things that fuel meaningful relationships for me.

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BritOnTheRocks t1_isxf24n wrote

I think it depends on what you prioritize in life and your relationships. If music or movies are important to you, then you will probably fair better with someone who shares similar tastes.

But if music is just background noise and movies mindless entertainment, then you'll probably be fine and have something else to connect over (food, politics, books, sports, or what-have-you).

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lycosid t1_isxkvi3 wrote

I think a lot of people get stuck in this mindset because so much of early dating (both in a relationship and early in life, generally) is about vibing over culture, but on the core values at issue in deep relationships, things like how you raise children, how important jobs and career ambitions are to you, or how open you each are to new experiences, those cultural preferences say almost nothing.

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fluufhead t1_isxuc92 wrote

Well said, I agree. I found it kind of reassuring to realize my deepest helped convictions are not actually about taste in music movies and other cultural signifiers

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CopOnTheRun OP t1_isxftff wrote

I feel the complete opposite way. As someone who spends relatively little time watching TV/movies and listens to music as background noise more than anything, I don't put much weight on them. There are so many more important aspects to any sort of relationship for me. Besides, outside of some sort of SO/partner, you're not usually forced to listen/watch someone else's taste in music or cinema.

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manyamile t1_isxgf0p wrote

“The spaces in between leave room for you and I to grow.”

  • Entres Nous, Permanent Waves, 1980, Rush
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gamerthrowaway_ t1_isxoahd wrote

> Like I feel like these things are tied to an overall worldview and are key components of a personality and those are things that fuel meaningful relationships for me.

I was going to make a quip about "yes, I am married" but then I got to this line. Just cause someone likes modern country music doesn't mean they are a bad person, it just means we have different rules about open air music playing or what happens in the car. When I did lots of stuff involving live music, I just went by myself cause they didn't have any interest in being in crowds or who was performing or anything like that.

The biggest things for a meaningful relationship for me is a significant overlap in core values regarding forward planning, kindness (not niceness, there is a difference), personal drive, conceptual thinking (or even more broadly but less of a metric, overall intelligence). A more distant fifth/sixth place would be broad political alignment, and value of children. A lot of that can be wrapped up in the idea of worldview, but I suspect you and I differ on what makes up that concept. It's really tough for me to invest a chunk of my (already stretched) emotional energy on someone if they deviate in multiple categories, especially that first set.

My spouse and I don't really share hobby interests (I have hobbies in music and gaming and painting, they in cycling, home crafts, cooking), we have very different Myers Brigs profiles (we share a T) and mine is strident at that... We're quite different people, but we share some foundational values; such as (but not limited to) we both share political views (even down to that 8 categories break out that Pew does), we are both driven, we're both kind (the whole east coast "baby needs a hat" theory resonates with us), but "nice" isn't usually an adjective attributed to us (especially me). I think it was Esther Perel who talked about "we are looking for someone who checks boxes for various needs we have at romantic/intellectual/social/etc levels" and my spouse checks more proverbial boxes (and the more important ones at that) than any other person I know. They don't check all of the boxes, but nobody does. We've been together for a long time.

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Pentakles t1_isxtn1z wrote

Thank you for taking the time to talk about the difference between nice and kind. I feel very much the same, especially as someone who also not given the 'nice' name often.

Don't expect me to coddle you over something pointless, but don't ever let me know you didn't have dinner. I will fight you to take care of you.

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gamerthrowaway_ t1_isxvka6 wrote

Exactly. I once heard it said that in NYC, people are kind, not nice. They will chew you out for blocking the side walk, but if your kid doesn't have a hat in January, they will give it their own (and then chew you out for being a bad parent). In LA, they are nice & polite to you, but will ghost you at the earliest inconvenience/time of trouble. It's an oversimplification and a stereotype, but there are elements of truth in it in my experience.

ninja edit: I once had a job working with surgeons. That's the only group of people I've met who (as a collective average) were both more kind and less nice than I am...

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Arcangelathanos t1_isy3po5 wrote

What is this baby needs a hat East Coast theory?

Edit: nevermind. I saw your response to another post and I agree 100%.

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SlowInvestor t1_isxit4h wrote

My wife and I like the same music. Completely opposite political views. We enjoy concerts together and don’t talk politics much. But when we do talk politics I try to keep an open mind. 14 yrs married this year. So I guess it depends on what’s important to you. If music is a big deal, find a music match. Otherwise adjust your priorities or expand your horizon a bit. Maybe you’ll find yourself growing and changing.

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ManBMitt t1_isxpfd7 wrote

My wife likes folk and pop. I like hip hop and electronic, can’t stand Taylor Swift. We’ve gone to each others’ favorite artists’ concerts, known each other for 8 years, married for 4, very happy together.

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dobromike t1_isyuuyx wrote

My mother-in-law is in town right now and I went to see Napalm Death last night. She said don't hang out with any druggies or tattooed people lol. Immediately thought "I gotta get out of this family". Only kidding of course, but yeah as a musician that thought has occurred to me my whole life and generally frustrates me when the topic of music comes up with anyone who's not a musician

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njbrews t1_isxbfu5 wrote

Shoutout to my morning runners. Waking up to sub 40 degrees with a freeze warning did not make me smile

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againer t1_isxdqlh wrote

Will I ever get what a "Jeep thing" is?

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Jon_hamm_wallet t1_isxe25l wrote

You wouldnt understand

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devenjames t1_isxi8m1 wrote

A golf club, basketball, bug spray, a laundry heap, a pocket knife, a battery … these are the things in my jeep.

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FiveInFive t1_isxxcsm wrote

I just watched the movie for the first time this weekend. I was delightfully entertained.

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devenjames t1_isxy1ih wrote

Ha same! always fun seeing the cameos in that kind of movie. Justin Timberlake as the chef was great.

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coconut_sorbet t1_isxzgue wrote

> Will I ever get what a "Jeep thing" is?

My husband has a Jeep. I will never understand.

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Commercial-Donkey-10 t1_isypws8 wrote

It's enjoying sitting in the repair shop waiting area while they fix another Jeep problem.

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Wa_wa_ouija t1_isyjxb0 wrote

To me atleast:

My jeep does not have space for all the things I want to do. It doesn't carry groceries well. I have never had the back seat in it and still can't put more than a weekends worth of camping shit in it.

It is very awkward to drive on road trips and is very uncomfortable. It is loud as fuck and hard to converse inside.

It guzzles gas and has a nice way of breaking down when I'd like it not to.

It doesn't go over 75 miles an hour before it shakes so badly that you legitimately fear for your life.

But I still love my jeep more than any vehicle I've ever owned. It's gotten me through some insane snow storms and up (and down) some very very sketchy mountain trails.

I have no idea why I love this thing, but I do. And most people will never understand my appreciation for such a shit vehicle lmfao.

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Sandblaster1988 t1_it0985r wrote

My dad was a CJ man when I was born and had the original Gladiator as his work truck. It’s been my daily driver (two TJ’s, sadly lost the first in an accident, second was old stock) since I was a teen. I’m conditioned to it and I always find that it just makes me happy driving it. Not on interstates though…she is a highway and rural coastal road dream.

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rattylight t1_isxlcmd wrote

In DC this morning after seeing the Smashing Pumpkins play an absolutely killer show last night. I am wiped out. A question that's been nagging me, does rock music like this still exist? Like is there new rock music being made in the mainstream or is Imagine Dragons really what we've got?

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Jon_hamm_wallet t1_isxc81c wrote

Got to work on writing a grant all day but tonight I'm going to a BOAT PARTY! I am very excited.

Also, I'm buying my 2-year old a teeny trampoline. I'm getting it used so if he doesnt like it, i'm only out $15. But I reaaaaally hope he likes it, he loves jumping on the bed.

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scuttlefish96 t1_isxd0ri wrote

How’d you get into grant writing? It’s been an office day dream of mine for a while.

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Jon_hamm_wallet t1_isxdwp3 wrote

I do outreach for a non-profit so if I want any of my cool dream programs funded, I gotta write grants. It's a slog and tbh I haven't actually won any of the ones I've written, but I'm relatively new to the field (just celebrated my 1-year anniversary!) So I don't feel too bad about it.

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Moondinos t1_isxf1pi wrote

Just woke up with a small amount of sleep too and I feel surprisingly okay so I feel that. I got my first parking ticket last night visiting a friend at her work after I got work. It was only sixty bucks but I apparently parked in a bus stop. I looked at the sign again when I got back to my car and there's a very teeny tiny sign that says VCU ram bus under it... all good took it with a grain of salt and already paid it.

My question is how to people continue to get up early? Especially in the colder months when outside of the covers feels like Antarctica... only reason I'm up is for opening the bar today and I could never get up early on a regular basis.

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manyamile t1_isxhi4g wrote

For some of us, it’s not a choice. I wake up naturally around 4AM every morning and have been that way since high school. Even if I go to bed late, my brain just kicks into high gear in the early morning.

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Moondinos t1_isxikav wrote

I have bad insomnia so on a good night I go to bed about 2am with meds that knock me out. I struggle to get up if it's extremely early due to how late I typically go to bed so that's rough to me to get up that early. I guess I'm just more of a night person, but thank you for your perspective! I know some people get up a little later than that naturally, but didn't realize 4am was also a thing

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latesaturate t1_isxn33d wrote

For me, it took getting an office job for it to stick. There was no way I would have volunteered to get up at 6:30 every day before that but now I’m in a routine and it’s easier to keep my sleep schedule on track than sleep too late on the weekends.

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Moondinos t1_it0eefj wrote

I felt that this morning I forgot to turn off my AC and it was freezing in my apartment

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fluufhead t1_isxv8uu wrote

I have not mastered this yet. Getting better though. I can be awake early but actually doing anything other than making & drinking coffee is a big ask. One exception is getting up early to do something fun like going fishing or hiking

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ifweweresharks t1_isx9uja wrote

Leaving work early to go to the Fetch a Cure event at Intermission Beer Co this evening at 5:00. No nagging questions or mysteries come to mind though.

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Hanidalon t1_isxfnfe wrote

I'm looking for two things that can hopefully be handled by local businesses. First is a zipper repair om a backpack. Great pack, just needs to have the zipper either reset or replaced.

I'm also looking for a colored light bulb for Halloween. My neighbor already has a purple bulb so I'm looking for a green or orange bulb to go with it.

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ImmobilizedbyCheese t1_isxjsut wrote

I got a green bulb at Lowe's. It was 3 bucks.

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gamerthrowaway_ t1_isy79um wrote

> First is a zipper repair om a backpack. Great pack, just needs to have the zipper either reset or replaced.

For leather, I've taken stuff like that to a shoe repair person (downtown has/had a few). For cotton type fabrics, I go to a tailor.

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Hanidalon t1_isyaprz wrote

It's a nylon or composite fabric so I guess I want a tailor. I can go all over RVA with my job, but I live in the city now. I just want to support a local business.

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gamerthrowaway_ t1_isyceeb wrote

Yeah, I haul my stuff to the tailor down the street from me for that reason, but any of them are likely to be able to work on this sort of thing if you bring it in and explain the task.

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puzzledsushi t1_isych7l wrote

Puritan Cleaners does basic alterations and repairs, so that’s one option!

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donniedarkhair t1_isyabl8 wrote

You can get a smart bulb for $8 and change the color any time you want.

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mewisme700 t1_isxcm72 wrote

Ate way too much at Plaza Azteca last night, I'm waking up still feeling full.

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lemon_difficult90 t1_isxf5vn wrote

Back in the early ‘00s, there was a Plaza Azteca in Norfolk that took over an old Spaghetti Warehouse. My high school dirtbag friends and I went there weekly. They kept the trolley car that had been in the middle of the Spaghetti Warehouse and Plaza Azteca-ized it with beer flags, sugar skulls, that kind of thing. Truly the most scenic location to eat your Miracle Whip salsa.

It’s a gym now and has been for at least 10 years. I went there a couple of times when I attempted to live at home, and they got rid of the trolley car. Can’t tell me you couldn’t have at least fit some stretching equipment in there.

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Pale-Temperature6442 t1_isxpyow wrote

Omg spaghetti warehouse was the worst..there was so much stuff in there.. and I ate there once and was so sick ..

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lemon_difficult90 t1_isxrvv2 wrote

I had my birthday dinner there when I turned 8, and even then I knew the food sucked. We leveled up to Rainforest Café for my ninth birthday! 😂

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everybodyhateskhris t1_isxt9ke wrote

Spaghetti Warehouse and Rainforest Cafe? Talk about throwbacks ha. We went once (Rainforest Cafe) and it was closed before we could go again.

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lemon_difficult90 t1_isxui7z wrote

Ours turned into a Forever 21 at some point. I was pretty much Forever 21’s target demographic when this happened, but it still seemed like it was not a fair trade. Man, it might just have been that I was in third grade when it opened, but the mall in downtown Norfolk was an experience for the first few years of its existence. The first iteration of the Vans store had a half pipe!

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everybodyhateskhris t1_isxvs1p wrote

Yeah I was referring to the one in Mac Mall (MacArthur). Yeah I remember it being an experience (never saw the half pipe though).

I had been wondering if it is as dead as other malls being that it is downtown. A quick search confirm that it is pretty dead and there are plans to tear it down by 2030.

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lemon_difficult90 t1_isxwn2p wrote

The theory is that they made it too upscale, which makes sense to me. Norfolk doesn’t have an awful lot of people in the tax bracket required to shop at Nordstrom. Online shopping killed the whole thing pretty fast, though - I worked there during college in the early 2010s and it was still consistently busy, but the couple of times I’ve been there while visiting my parents the last few years, it’s been dead as hell. I hear Lynnhaven Mall is still reasonably busy, but VB is definitely another world.

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everybodyhateskhris t1_isy76m3 wrote

Yeah I can see that. After the first couple years I only went to go to the movie theater there.

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Mmeeggggss t1_isxuugd wrote

My USPS informed delivery showed mail arriving last week and I still don’t have it. Really important pieces of mail, too. USPS said I can’t launch an investigation / make a claim for 7 days, so I guess that’s what I’m doing tomorrow. I’m open to any helpful or hopeful thoughts or comments please. I hope everyone else gets whatever mail or packages they’re expecting because this is a powerless yucky feeling.

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cutejnny t1_isysrp7 wrote

ugh. the mail in my neighborhood is always hit or miss. we went 2 weeks a few months ago where we didn't receive any mail. when I reported it the post office replied they were short handed and that was the end of that. I also made a claim for a package that was "delivered" and it was never resolved. good luck haha

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Chickenmoons t1_isx5mq9 wrote

What is Gorgeous George up to these days? I know at one point he was driving for Uber. I’m sort of surprised he doesn’t have a talk radio shown given the world seems to have come around on his personal brand of bluster, ego, idiocy and misogyny.

Anyone seen him or know what happened to him?

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permanent_turtle t1_isxk4v5 wrote

>been in the middle of the Spaghetti Warehouse and P

Working at the northside post office?

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xCatChan t1_isxbtgo wrote

Happy to work from home today with these temps. I don't want to get out of bed. 🥶

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jodyhighrola t1_isxkrfx wrote

Who are the most powerful figures in Richmond? I figure it's a very old city with very old money, so there must be some Lex Luthors out there. (Puts on tin foil hat)

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fluufhead t1_isxw8l3 wrote

E Claiborne Robins, got the u of r biz school named after him (& a bunch of other stuff). His company went bankrupt in the 70s after a poorly designed IUD injured hundreds of thousands of women. It was called the dalkon shield. Sr died in the 90s but I imagine the family is still very wealthy (idk about powerful but probably)

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[deleted] t1_isyrkrk wrote

I had a really fun time at trivia last night. We play trivia at bingo on tuesdays. My usual team couldn’t make it so I went alone. I ended up getting approached and asked if I wanted to join a team. Ended up being the funnest night I’ve had at trivia so far!

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stickynohte t1_isxuabp wrote

Stayed up way too late finishing a book and I’m dressed like a potato sack today because body dysmorphia + cold weather allows me to do so. Eh, been a long week already.

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captain_bowlton t1_isyhgu3 wrote

It took until 3 weeks before the election for me to notice the lack of campaign ads, at least on Nbc12. Am I going crazy because it has been awful in past election cycles. Did something change or am I just not seeing them?

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BlueRidgeSandwiches t1_isxb0wj wrote

Why doesnt the Jasper serve hot food?

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dr_nerdface t1_isxbens wrote

hot food takes more time. cold apps take less time.

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ogbasillame t1_isyih32 wrote

Someone the other day posted about “When/Where are we getting and Jeni’s?” and I found the link!

Carytown Exchange and hopefully by May 2023!

Carytown Exchange Tenants

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CopOnTheRun OP t1_isyjmz0 wrote

Cool link! Windsor Farms is doing a lot to inflate those household income and home value stats. Not that it's wrong but I was scratching my head at the average home value in that area being ~670k

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AlreadyShrugging t1_iszgls2 wrote

Okay I gotta rant about the pair of vapid corporate drones from out of state who rode in my Uber for a short 2-mile ride.

They spent the entire ride loudly proclaiming their hatred of reading and going on and on about how reading just one chapter of a book recommended at some corporate leadership conference was a struggle.

My brain feels like its been emptied because of their presence.

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dr_nerdface t1_isxbsni wrote

this season is the height of asskickery.

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Jtravers23 t1_isycokd wrote

Mystery of the day:. Where did the Ellwood Thompson's salad bar go?

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RainAhh t1_isyl1hl wrote

Really frustrated with the local market scene. I feel like I apply for so many and never hear anything back. Jewelry is just such a competitive market, especially when you have people who make more affordable items.

Which markets do ya’ll enjoy going out to? I think it’s time I expand my local market knowledge.

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Commercial-Donkey-10 t1_isypqo4 wrote

Is Fort Pickett holding drills today? I had 2 helicopters with guns the size of my car fly low over my house, heading east.

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KnopeCampaign t1_iszk5ee wrote

I had my quarterly blood work done and didn’t pass out or vomit! I maintained composure better than I ever have (have trypanophobia)

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[deleted] t1_isx9y7p wrote

gonna delete today, nobody cares buuuuut fuck this goddamn cop loving bootlicking sub! was terrorized by fucking THUGS that wore badges all through my childhood like they were some kind of wild west gang that could do whatever they goddamn wanted. but yeah my child ass was the problem! fuck y'all

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dr_nerdface t1_isxbmgj wrote

quality shitpost from a now deactivated account. just someone trying to get people riled up. don't feed the trolls, y'all.

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everybodyhateskhris t1_isxh6im wrote

It was actually a redditor that posted pretty frequently *in this sub. Got fed up with the sub I guess.

E: Words

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dr_nerdface t1_isxkc0r wrote

it's weird bc i feel the majority of active commenters here are fairly unimpressed with our police force. maybe I'm not seeing all the bootlicking they referred to.

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everybodyhateskhris t1_isy0lu5 wrote

To your point I feel like that has been a recentlyish development (post George Floyd protest). Prior to that I would say generally there was a positive to neutral view of the RVA police force.

But perhaps the unimpressed view was always there and the protests brought that view to the surface.

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Diet_Coke t1_isxvzgr wrote

Really seems to depend on the context. Sometimes people are like "oh yeah, tell them there's a mass shooting plot and they might get around to it" and other times they're like "call the cops on your annoying neighbors, that's what police are for 👍"

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everybodyhateskhris t1_isxphjp wrote

Not sure if they were fed up based on a specific thread or a culmination. Just commenting that it wasn't some troll based on the tone of their usual post on this sub.

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