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wernercd t1_j6ky01v wrote

End it. move on. find someone better.

she refuses to get help and refuses to work with you.

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PhysicalMountain24 t1_j6ky9cp wrote

Thank you, I will have to make a strategic exit strategy. I have tried ending it like a civil person before, but that blew up in my face worse than any sane person would fathom.

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wernercd t1_j6kyuoa wrote

Don't make it an option.

Like you said, have a plan. Have family there to help you move. Friends. An Uber driver. Police if need be.

Sex is the question you bring at the forefront but it seems to be the smallest of problems you have going on.

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PhysicalMountain24 t1_j6l0ctf wrote

Most definitely, I try my absolute best to keep positive thoughts and energy. I do not enjoy strife by any means, best put, sex to me, seems like a means to an end.

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flappysnapper t1_j6l2wq2 wrote

Man, you are too young for this shit, is this really how you want to spend the rest of your life? Get out now! You don’t have kids, take it from someone older than you that should’ve listened to people trying to tell me the same thing when I was your age, and ended up learning the hard way because I didn’t listen.

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PhysicalMountain24 t1_j6l3p2q wrote

Thank you, I would pick up drinking again if this was how I would spend the rest of my life. It would be a shame to see my children walk across the stage, grabbing their diplomas, and to not truly be happy.

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Minnie_Moo_Magoo t1_j6l3g98 wrote

Sounds like you already know your answer if the word you use to describe your relationship is "traumatic." Definitely time to move on.

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forget-me-not-37 t1_j6l0y1f wrote

It seems like you are sexually incompatible

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PhysicalMountain24 t1_j6l2e50 wrote

In the beginning, it was ecstatic. Then, over time, I began to experience a side of her that I had not seen before.

Something most people dont/won't see until they have spent considerably some time together romantically or intimately.

When we first started having intercourse, it lasted for hours. Something that astonished even myself. I would finish multiple times throughout the sessions we would have.

Pretty much around the first year together is when it started to change for the worse.

A bit before our first year together, I had to start taking Prozac. That is when I began to see more of her, the other side of her personality. After that is when more events and situations transpired.

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JannaNYC t1_j6l1kl2 wrote

>We don't use protection, I don't want to have children until years from now. But she refuses to use condoms, I have told her I'm not going to try the "Pull-out" method because that is something I am not going to risk.

Are you.. mentally deficient?

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