Submitted by CRD89 t3_10qczsa in relationship_advice
Hello everybody , (M33) here , dating a girl ( F25 ) 8 months now , and last weekend she confessed something I was already aware of , but never spoke about.
Couple of days ago , we smoked a joint together and expecting to have a good time. Instead , an SMS popped up on her cell at like 11 pm from a coworker of her asking some work related stuff ( not relevant ). Nothing bad until here .. but she kept refreshing her screen for 2 mins tops , waiting for an answer on her reply , which both being high , it started bothering me.
Asked her , what’s the deal here , why u so impatient , almost desperate ? She said nothing. I asked her , do you like him ? She answered straight no ! But after that I asked her , but did you liked him before did you? And she said she had a crush on him when we started dating , and that the crush faded away a month into our relationship , nothing happened between them , that’s what she claims and that he doesn’t even know about her crush. I told her : I knew you were liking him before because she mentioned him almost on a daily basis when we started dating.
This is so akward to me , tbh .. I don’t know how to get past that thought .. that she continued dating me , for a straight month even when she had a crush on another dude. Idk if I should take a step back to reflect what I should do next, even tho I know she loves me , and she want’s to be with me , still I feel like almost I wasn’t her 1st choice kinda. Thank you for reading.
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