Dig up the stats on what it would cost in your area to pay someone to do all the household chores you're doing. Then when you and he sit down to hash out your monthly budget present those numbers to him. Relationships work best when both parties feel they're each providing half of what it costs a couple to live. So negotiate it. Also, don't blithely trot into marriage until this is completely resolved. That includes the future, especially if you're hoping to have a family. It's just a fact that kids will damage your career more than his. So if expectations and a firm plan haven't been established you'll just end up with a lot of resentment. Arguments about money cause more divorces than any other reason.