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> I told him I’m okay with doing this but that I want to work a year in my field (I’m a new graduate) before doing so, So that I have connections in our home country.

Completely reasonable. If you can't get on the same page, you can always consider doing ld for this time.

Yes, you're being fair.

Having said that, remember that there will literally *never* be a good time to do something like this if you put your career first. However, let me make myself clear with this: I'm not saying you should do it sooner; I'm just saying that as someone who values their career and work life, I literally never think it's a *good* time to do these things, so I've missed out a lot.

Remember to keep a good balance in the long run.

Honestly OP, I think as long as you are financially able it is a good idea to do this sooner rather than later. If you spend a year putting down roots it can get way more complicated and difficult to suddenly uproot and travel for a year.

This is just personal opinion though, there's nothing wrong with doing what you want with your life!

Do you think it’s a bad idea to take a year? I do feel nervous about the long-term implications. I love travelling but feel like there are better ways to go about it. As someone who puts career first, is this something you would do?

No, I wouldn't do it.

But in reality, I find it's hard to do this sort of thing once the ball is rolling in your career. You're better to do it before, or a good ways into your career after you've proven yourself, and have a stable framework to go back to, which in reality, would probably take many years.

If it were me, I'd do like a few weeks in another country before fully committing myself to my career for the long term.

Yeah, I’m wondering if it might just not be the best idea in general. I feel like it’s more ideal to do when you’re in your early 20’s. I actually did a year abroad already which I guess is why I don’t feel so much of a need to do it.

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