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airaqua t1_j6nb7ex wrote

> I told him I’m okay with doing this but that I want to work a year in my field (I’m a new graduate) before doing so, So that I have connections in our home country.

Completely reasonable. If you can't get on the same page, you can always consider doing ld for this time.

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PreferenceIcy3052 t1_j6nd3wh wrote

Yes, you're being fair.

Having said that, remember that there will literally *never* be a good time to do something like this if you put your career first. However, let me make myself clear with this: I'm not saying you should do it sooner; I'm just saying that as someone who values their career and work life, I literally never think it's a *good* time to do these things, so I've missed out a lot.

Remember to keep a good balance in the long run.

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Firm-Ice5017 t1_j6ne8km wrote

Do you think it’s a bad idea to take a year? I do feel nervous about the long-term implications. I love travelling but feel like there are better ways to go about it. As someone who puts career first, is this something you would do?

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PreferenceIcy3052 t1_j6nm1sj wrote

No, I wouldn't do it.

But in reality, I find it's hard to do this sort of thing once the ball is rolling in your career. You're better to do it before, or a good ways into your career after you've proven yourself, and have a stable framework to go back to, which in reality, would probably take many years.

If it were me, I'd do like a few weeks in another country before fully committing myself to my career for the long term.

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Firm-Ice5017 t1_j6nmhnx wrote

Yeah, I’m wondering if it might just not be the best idea in general. I feel like it’s more ideal to do when you’re in your early 20’s. I actually did a year abroad already which I guess is why I don’t feel so much of a need to do it.

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Nurgle_Marine_Sharts t1_j6ndgnj wrote

Honestly OP, I think as long as you are financially able it is a good idea to do this sooner rather than later. If you spend a year putting down roots it can get way more complicated and difficult to suddenly uproot and travel for a year.

This is just personal opinion though, there's nothing wrong with doing what you want with your life!

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