I (19M) and 18F (been seeing each other for about 1 and a half months) I don’t know if she wants to pursue a relationship or not

Submitted by toroazzz t3_10qcrnh in relationship_advice

So I met this girl at the club, we had a good time together and we exchanged numbers with each other. And the day after we started texting.

About a week passes and we been texting everyday and I find out she is going on vacation for a little over 2 weeks. Under that time we continued to text. And she would also drunk call me during this time of which I would find funny and enjoyable.

We would continue the texting thing and get to know each other more. We would later meet when she arrived home at a club (both drunk when we first meet) and dance together but she would lay her focus not just in me but her friends also, which I understand but it happened quite often which was kind of annoying.

This scenario would happen again 3 times and we would up until this time just do that. Keep in mind in the weekdays our schedule wouldn’t line up, so we just met on the weekends.

I later proposed that just me and her would meet, and that happened last Friday. We took drinks at her place. We weren’t alone though, her mom was also there and she was very kind. Later, we went to a local bar and hung out. I find out there she has had some pretty horrible experiences with guys in the past. I don’t want to get into the details, but i can just say it wasn’t with her consent.

That shook me, cause that explained a few things for me for who she is, and why she has acted the way she has. Anyway, we later get pizza and get back to her place and we watched a movie. Later on we would lay on her bed and watched more movies. We would snuggle a ton, but I do not know what to do. She didn’t give any clear sign she wanted to kiss or something. And with her past experiences in my mind I didn’t do anything either, out of respect for her. So we just snuggled until we both passed out in the bed.

My question is what do I do? Cause at this point i do not know. I sometimes feel like she treats me as a really good friend, and other times it’s more than that. Also we text each other goodnight and good morning almost everyday with hearts and stuff.

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hisimpendingbaldness t1_j6p89ws wrote

Ask her what she wants out of you.

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toroazzz OP t1_j6pa0sy wrote

Yeah. But recently she has also been leaving me on delivered for a few hours at a time..

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hisimpendingbaldness t1_j6pa69l wrote

And?

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toroazzz OP t1_j6pakx6 wrote

I dont know man. Im just overthinking so much, thinking she has lost interest

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