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yowen2000 t1_j6ogb4i wrote

Explain that he was just standing up for you, as he should've. Nobody was going to win that debate right then and there. It was best to just drop it and that's what happened, as far as you and your boyfriend are concerned, you did the right thing.

"sorry if it came across as intimidating, he just felt the debating was getting out of hand and that we needed to change the subject"

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[deleted] OP t1_j6ogs4b wrote

They thought my BF was purposefully trying to intimidate them. Like if you’re talking to someone , of course you’ll stand near them. Like obviously height doesn’t matter but they’re 5”3 and 5”1 and he’s like 6”1 so it was just a really really bad misunderstanding.

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touhatos t1_j6oku5t wrote

You can stay where you are and say « guys please - this isn’t getting solved so can we please drop it ». Was the other guys’ attitude toward you aggressive at all ? You said they peppered you with questions. Is that what your BF reacted to?

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yowen2000 t1_j6ohua8 wrote

You don't need to go right up to someone to tell them it's time to end the debate.

Also, you can just change the subject without telling everyone to stop.

There are certainly friendlier ways to solve the problem. But I don't think what he did was wrong either.

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synonymousD t1_j6oh9ac wrote

Boyfriend apologizes, friends say it's OK, nobody talks about silly, triggering, things. Everyone wins.

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