Submitted by Odd-Sock2486 t3_10prncr in relationship_advice
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*small back story: I am 25 years old, I work part time at my father's company, I also have MS (multiple scrolsis) so I can only do so much at a time. My Boyfriend works in the Medical field and a pharmacy job at night.
My boyfriend of 2 years and 6 months had told me if I don't move in the next 2 months with him then he will break it off with Me, I need advice.
Since his lease on his apartment is ending in 2 months, they are asking for $1,400 if he renews it for another 12 months, he doesn't want to look for a new place becuase he can't offord it. As we all know the cost of rent has gone up sooo much.
He wants my name on the lease and split 50/50 on the bills. With my already bills and expenses, it will put me in a hole to have to put down an extra $1000. He knows my current situation and knows that I don't make as much as he does.
I do love him and we did grow alot, we have took trips, met eacothers entire family/friends and so much more with in our 2 years. It definitely felt like a shovel hit my face when he told me this altimatum. I don't just want to let it all go, he doesn't either but he can't wait much longer.
I do stay at his place probably 4 days/nights out of the week and I do contribute to essentials around the house here and there when I can. I mentioned to him about staying at his place more days, he said that's fine but it won't change his 2 month decision. I've also tried to see if there is a middle ground, but he is really stern on his decision.
Do you think he wants me to move in so badly only to pay what he can't offord? Do you think I'm being alittle bit too much by waiting almost 3 years to figure it out? What should I do? What would you do?
Bottom line is I don't think I'm ready to 100% fully move in, within 2 months from now, I will be emotionally broken if he decides to break up over this. :/
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