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PreferenceIcy3052 t1_j6ne1hb wrote

By the way you're telling the story, it sounds like your fiance is in the wrong.

It sounds like he feels attacked, and rather than understand your request for help, he feels pressured to do the things he doesn't want to do, such as take a higher position in his company.

You said this was just last night. So, maybe he will come around? If not, he needs to learn to take your requests for help more seriously. Sometimes there's more than one solution to a problem, so you two need to talk it out and compromise and go from there.

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ThrowRAexhuasted OP t1_j6nf7sk wrote

He struggles with being the offensive at all times. It doesn’t matter what to issue is. It could be the smallest thing. If I bring it up, he is immediately upset and withdrawn.

I don’t want to make him do thing he doesn’t want to do. But it feels like he has no problem forcing me into such a hard situation

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PreferenceIcy3052 t1_j6nmixw wrote

Well, that's the point. I haven't heard his side of things, but I'm telling you, he sounds like he's being very selfish.

Why should you have to do the brunt of the work? Either you find a way to make it 50/50, or the person who does the majority of the work ought to have the say in what's going to happen. In this case, that's you.

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