nothanksandthensome t1_j6olyl3 wrote
Aside from the usual things you mention that you and your boyfriend are already on the same page about, I would suggest talking about the following just off the top of my head:
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- House guests rules
How much are each of you comfortable with having people over? How do you expect the other person to act and interact if only one of you has couple over, e.g. non-mutual friends? How will you deal with it if a family member from afar wants to visit or if a friend suddenly needs a place to crash?
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- General planning
What counts as shared plans? If your boyfriend says "I'm making us pasta for dinner tonight", do you then have dinner plans together or is it ok if you spontaneously go for drinks with a coworker after work instead? How do you each expect the other to check in regarding individual plans? How much notice is acceptable if you want to make or break plans?
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- Sleep pattern / sleep hygiene
Is one of you a night owl and the other not? Is one of you really fond of the snooze button and will wake the other one up every 10 minutes for an hour before getting out of bed? How do you each feel about electronics in the bed or in the bedroom as a whole?
Loud-Situation2643 OP t1_j6ou7dj wrote
That’s great ! We’ve already talked about the sleep schedule. I’m more of a night owl, he likes to sleep around 10pm/11pm. He wants to go to bed with me, so we bought a small reading lamp, that way he can fall asleep beside me and I can read till it’s time for me to sleep. We’ll see how it works !
For the other subjects we agree on the theory, we’ll see how it applies in reality
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