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ThrowRA-wwydiw OP t1_j6muo7c wrote

Reply to comment by bluemonker0 in Is he M45 F20 still in love with his ex? by ThrowRA-wwydiw

I really love him. I know the age gap is crazy, but my life is just different I guess. I grew up around all adults, I was never really allowed to hang out with people my age, so I’m generally just more comfortable and prefer older men. He and I agree on pretty much everything. Same politics, same views, same interests, religious beliefs etc. so it does check out at least. I am so hurt because I see myself marrying him..

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Nihil-011 t1_j6mx4wk wrote

You desperately need therapy.

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ThrowRA-wwydiw OP t1_j6mxh1i wrote

You paying though?

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Nihil-011 t1_j6n10ll wrote

No, but I can maybe assist you in finding someone that would be inexpensive. If you’re east coast USA. I work in behavioral therapy for adults with disabilities, so what you need is outside my field, but I do network with therapists, counselors and social workers often.

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ThrowRA-wwydiw OP t1_j6njtbg wrote

That’s the funny thing. He doesn’t pay for shit for me. He bought me a couple nice gifts for Christmas. I pay for everything and work super hard for my money. That’s why I’m like damn, I’m not even getting money and she is??? Hahaha. She literally just getting handouts from him.

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bananahammerredoux t1_j6n3ae3 wrote

There’s nothing wrong with what you’re saying here as far as your own perspective goes. But what you’re ignoring is that a middle aged man should not be comfortable with a 20 year old as a partner. When you’re standing on the 45 year old side of it, 20 looks and feels extremely young and inappropriate. Which means you’re dating someone who is totally comfortable with inappropriate situations. Want more proof? Look at what he’s doing with his ex.

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