Submitted by OnlyDekkiHD t3_10qbisz in relationship_advice
Apologies in advance if this post is a bit jumbled, I’m unwell at the moment and my brain is extremely foggy.
For a bit of context, I am autistic and I broke my neck in 2020, my fiancé has been my full time carer since the accident.
We’ve been together almost 3 years. (30th April 2020) we lived together for just under a year (moved in 15th January 2022, moved out 10th January 2023)
When she moved in, I told her she doesn’t need to get a job. I can support us both, all I need is help doing the day to day stuff that I cannot do anymore.
That was the deal, however my family members wanted her to get a job because I shouldn’t be providing for both of us. And they would constantly bug her and me about it, regardless of my feelings on the scenario.
On my birthday, she told me she was moving in with her mum the next day (her mum lives 200 miles away from me) I had no warning, nothing was put in place. Just upped and left, she claims that she still loves me and wants to be with me but she “wanted to prove everyone wrong” by getting a job with her mums company.
I’ve had 0 care since she left. I tried doing things on my own but I cannot do it. I tried doing food shopping and ended up in hospital due to the extreme pain it caused.
I’m so heartbroken and angry about the situation. How can she claim to love me, but leave me knowing I cannot look after myself? She has since said that I should move too, however I’m unsure if I want to leave my family and friends behind. Plus I’m unsure I could be financially stable.
How would you handle this situation?
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