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DistraugtlyDistractd t1_j6oxxm1 wrote

Reply to comment by southcoastal in I (22M) broke up with my gf (f21) and I wanted to text her one last thing by [deleted]

It would let her know I am still open as long as she wants to work for it

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hedbryl t1_j6pa4am wrote

Then why did you break up with her? Sounds like it was a "test" to see if she'd start doing what you wanted. That's toxic af. Break up or get back together (as she is, with no expectation of change), none of this manipulative nonsense.

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DistraugtlyDistractd t1_j6pbbbe wrote

I was sure of it at the time and it needed to be done. She said that one day she hopes our paths cross again. I am just missing the good times man, I know this is a bad idea. I pretty much said this when we were breaking up, she didn't want to try and save it, she said she felt the same way about breaking up too. I loved her so I let her go, I did that because she didn't prioritize me and it felt like I was a FWB sometimes.

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Chrizilla_ t1_j6pcavm wrote

Not worth it, remember the good times for what they were, but look forward to a new and bright future.

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VTGCamera t1_j6phouk wrote

No, you want the total opposite. Just leave. Don't get near, it will help you mentally and also her to clear her mind in case she wants to really get back, not because you are pressuring or guilt tripping her.

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