Submitted by radnsad69 t3_10qceca in relationship_advice

Hi, I'm posting here because I don't know what to do. I guess I'II dive right in. I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months. There have been good and bad times. In may of 2022 his parents made him block me because I had a bad mental health day. So for a day straight my mom and I called him until he answered and we worked it out. In august of 2022 there was another incident in which he had a family trip last minute and I left my computer in his apartment. I happened to be around the city he lived because I was at a club. The next day and he told me I could grab it. By the time I got there it was 3am and he told me he didn't want me driving back that late and to just sleep there and lock up when I left.

I did and the cleaning lady saw me and his parents found out and freaked out. In October of 2022 his holistic teacher did a reading on his Astro body and saw negative energy so his parents toke said apartment away. Come to find out the energy was from his therapists on hard drugs. Around the middle of January this year he went a holistic group home. I woke up to a text message of him breaking up with me last night. He kept repeating that his therapist though this best.

I can't lose him, I have lost a lot of people such as my father and my grandpa. I can respect him not wanting a relationship but I feel like I should at least be able to keep the friendship. We've been through so much. I would just like to know a way to fix this. I've heard all the "if it's meant to be it'll be" and "respect his boundaries" and I'm trying to. But I refuse to walk away without a fight. Can someone please tell me how to fix this. He was one of the last things that brought light in my life. He still has some of my things at his house but I honestly don't want to get them because it gives me an excuse to see him. I've been blocked on everything. If anything I wanna keep my best friend.

Someone please, genuinely tell me how to fix it

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NDaveT t1_j6pa400 wrote

Calling his holistic teacher a therapist is an insult to therapists.

This guy is either crazy or gullible. You can do better.

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Reasonable_Major1678 t1_j6p6zom wrote

Move on , him and his family are too much hassle. Find a chill guy you will be happier

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sugarmag13 t1_j6pa9vg wrote

your are 20 leave the madness

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EvilFinch t1_j6pg6se wrote

He listen to everything was others say. The parents say block her, he does it, the holistic teacher aka therapist says block her and he also humps. He has no own opinion. This guy is no good for you. You say he is important for you and you want to fight, but your feelings aren't recipracated or why else could he end the contact so easy?

There are so many better men who really cares for you without all this trouble.

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