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Ambitious-Cover-1130 t1_j6mg2k4 wrote

In short - attacks of this kind is a BIG RED FLAG.

Find a lawyer - check your finances NOW

Ensure that you are ok as much as you can.

Even though you might loose something it is ok.

Just prepare to get the hell out of there.

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Formal_Self_8191 OP t1_j6mgl0o wrote

I was afraid to hear this answer, but deep down I knew it was the bigger possibility. I am truly struggling with the fact that I “attacked” first. Like I brought this on myself, he would’ve had no reason to do what he did if I didn’t start it. If only I just backed away and cooled down.

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victoraug19 t1_j6mt0tl wrote

Yeah because you did. You are the abuser in this one op.

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CuteDerpster t1_j6mz5fq wrote

You didn't "attack" him first

You attacked him first.

Dont play it down.

Not once in your post do you mention that he got violent other than pushing you down.

You on the other hand were throwing stuff and kicking him.

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Formal_Self_8191 OP t1_j6o8uko wrote

Yes, I think I was kicking. After I was on the ground and being held down. That part is fuzzy still but that’s how I remember my kicking coming into play because the rest of the time I was walking around trying to gather myself.

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Ambitious-Cover-1130 t1_j6msnqu wrote

Throwing a box of paper is not comparable to physical manhandling. Stop feeling guilty.

Edit.

You could argue that you started the altercation- still one has to argue that men are not allowed to manhandle women. It is the same reason that a professional boxer will get a very hard sentence if he is a street fight and someone gets hurt. The boxer has an advantage. A grown man has the physical advantage (as you see) towards women.

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