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She only wants guys who are obsessed with her. Run for your life.

It sounds like she is into playing games and likes to be chased. If you are into that, have at it and start chasing her. If you want someone who is more mature and can articulate what they want without jerking you around, move on to someone else.

She's playing a game. She wants obsessed guys who text her constantly and ignore her when she tells them that she doesnt want to have contact with them. I think this is more about the attention and less about any attraction she might have for you. Avoid her. Dating is hard enough without playing games.

To be fair she said it jokingly. But at the same time she said that I should know I want to be in a relationship with her after 1-2 times hanging with her. I said that’s unrealistic. She rebutted by saying that other guys in the past have said they wanted to date her that quickly. I said that’s not me.

Homeboy got that

"WYD" text and answered the call to battle.

Some people get high on attention. She is obviously one of them. So if you choose to go into this then you are consenting to do things like text her every day and be obsessed with her. The mature part of my brain is telling you it's a horrible choice. And you will never be able to meet that expectation.

>She told me she wants guys who are obsessed with her.

Hell nah brotha!!

You dip, dive, duck, and dodge on those girls.

The moment you stop the chase, and someone else starts, she's gone. She wants the thrill of being caught. Girls like that are trouble.

You want the type of girl who fights to pay the bill on a date. That's the one you bring home to the family.

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In my defense she is very hot. But anyway, yes I know the way she has acted is kind of concerning. The weird thing is that this is the only type of girl I’m actually attracted to. I love the uncertainty and unpredictability.

Is it a red flag that she said she loves the fact that I’m very mysterious and that she can never really tell what I’m truly thinking when I’m with her?

How enmeshed you want to be is up to you. If you want to see her, text as she asks.

Stay true to you. Either way, she reeks of high maintenance.

Nah she said it jokingly and believes it 100%, been here and it is a shitshow ride.

She is too immature in how she dates and wants some ro obsessively fawn over her to prove her worth.

Run. These people aren't fun. The fact she is messaging you after you did what she asked also show that she wants a mind reader and has poor communication skills too.

>she loves the fact that I’m very mysterious and that she can never really tell what I’m truly thinking

Probably because you're one of the few guy's who isn't foaming at the mouth for her.

>She told me she wants guys who are obsessed with her.

Oh, my friend, run away. This woman is way more trouble than she is worth...

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The young lady strikes me as very immature and attention-seeking. You might be better off with someone who has more confidence.