Submitted by Far_Cardiologist6247 t3_10qceqe in relationship_advice

Need advice on how I should handle the situation. Should I deal with it internally as it is something before my time, or talk to her about it?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now, and I'm wondering if I'm making a big deal of nothing. There have been very little issues in our relationship and she always makes sure to make me feel loved. I don't doubt her in anyway but I cant help but feel awkward/uncomfortable whenever I see old videos of her and her ex.

They were together close to 5 years and understand that there is memories that aren't just tied to them being in a relationship but good memories overall. I'm trying my best to separate my emotions and come to an understanding that this was before my time and I shouldn't take this personally. I feel that I can get over it given enough time, I just feel awkward and a little bad every time I see old videos of them on her phone. It doesn't help when her reaction to these videos is to quickly get it off her screen.

I never want to be overbearing and restricting what she can and can't keep. I just feel awkward whenever old videos resurface.

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TLDR: Girlfriend of almost a year still has photos of ex and it makes me uncomfortable and I'm unsure if I should bring it up

Sorry for poor formatting as this is a throw away account and my first post

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Skin_Talker t1_j6p5y0p wrote

Ask her to remove them, UNLESS they have children together or something. That's different. But it's weird that she still has them.

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StarryCloudRat t1_j6p7lyv wrote

I think it’s weird to expect someone to delete all evidence of their past relationships once they’re in a new one. They were an important part of her life, there’s no more reason to delete them than you would delete pictures of a dead family member or a friend you lost touch with. What feels threatening to you about her seeing a picture of her ex?

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interestingpitch33 t1_j6pcp6o wrote

If none of them are NSFW that's fine. 5 Years makes for a lot of photos to delete

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Far_Cardiologist6247 OP t1_j6phg3d wrote

I guess what made me feel bad was recently there was a video of her ex jokingly giving her a lap dance, and obviously I would hate to see someone I love with someone else. But what also made me feel weird was her reaction afterwards and how quick she was to hide it away.

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