bro, chill. You got some serious trust issues goin' on there. It's not like your girl went out and cheated on you or anything. Shes just havin' a good time with her friends, no harm no foul.

But I feel you, if she's lyin' to you about who she's hangin' out with, that's not cool. You got a right to be uneasy about that. But you also got to remember, she's just tryna have a good time with her friends. She's not tryna hurt you or anything like that.

So what you gotta do is sit down and have a real talk with her. Ask her why she's lyin' to you and why she's being so defensive. Listen to what she has to say, and then you tell her how you feel about it.

But you can't just go checkin' her phone bro, that's not cool either. You gotta trust her and give her the benefit of the doubt. If she's lyin' to you, she's lyin' to you, and that's on her. But don't go lookin' through her phone, that's just whack.

In the end, you gotta remember why y'all got together in the first place. You got a daughter and 4 years together, that's not somethin' to just throw away. You gotta work this out, together. And if she's not down to work it out, then maybe y'all just ain't meant to be. But don't give up on her just yet, give her a chance to explain herself.