Cait_2000 OP t1_j6kipp3 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 11:43 PM

Reply to comment by roomshka in My (23f) boyfriend (23m) and his friend (23f) by Cait_2000

Thank you for your reply 💕 I honestly don't see the situation getting better but I also know I'm just done with drama and might be a bit harsh about it, hence this post. Having known him for so long I didn't get the impression he was like this and bless him he's so great about everything else but I truly can't be defending myself against someone he barely knows.

I have caught one ex cheating before and I just had a gut feeling so I went over and another ex I could tell from day one his friend wasn't good news and sure enough she was sneaky and tried him multiple times haha. Funny world.

roomshka t1_j6kliyc wrote on January 31, 2023 at 12:02 AM

I just want you to know, that it is okay to put yourself first. No relationship is worth screwing your mental health over for. If he doesn’t budge, tell him you won’t either and end it at that. You simply have a boundary that is being crossed and he is ignoring it, defending against it, even.

It’s one thing to be insecure about him having female friends which clearly seems to not be the case here, but it is definitely not a good sign if he is willing to defend her against your very valid concern without even taking it into consideration.

I am sorry you went through all of that. Being cheated on is a very hard thing to emotionally recover from. I wish you the best, OP❤️