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MckittenMan t1_j6kgl5t wrote

The waters spicy on this one.

Given this is a month old relationship. Might be best if you just go back to being friends.

Things like this tend to become reoccurring theme in relationships

  • You're going to perceive it as a threat
  • He's just going to side with her
  • You're going to be battling your insecurities
  • He will continue giving you reasons to be insecure
  • You will always be uncomfortable with things

Realistically, the only path to resolution is you befriending her.

The alternative is find a different relationship where none of this is a factor. You can focus solely on the relationship, and not have to burden yourself with the potential upcoming drama.

I would have a tough time with that myself, GF living with a new guy friend and is protective over.

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Cait_2000 OP t1_j6khscz wrote

Thank you so much for your response, unfortunately I know that pattern all too well. I have tried to be so nice to her but she seems to just shrug me off. The first thing she said about me to him is "don't get your heart broken", which? I'm sorry but when my friends get into a relationship I'm excited for them, I don't tell them to be careful without even knowing the person. So I don't think friends is an option.

It's early days in the relationship and I know we work well as friends so I think I'm siding with the idea of just being friends with him. Again thank you.

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MckittenMan t1_j6kicsq wrote

>don't get your heart broken

Ooooh. She don't like you like you.

Yeah... that is no go in my book.

To me, that sounds like she is potentially jealous of you, and jealousy usually means one thing... Feelings.

Which your BF is either oblivious to, or kindling.

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Cait_2000 OP t1_j6kj55z wrote

I feel like he is oblivious to it but I have tried to point it out to him, saying she's had his full attention for four months and now I'm in the picture all of these small little things have started happening. He did mention when he first met her he fancied him (which was max only 4 months ago haha) so I know he finds her attractive. I don't think he's the type of guy to do anything untowards but accidents can happen and that'd be the end of it for me anyway.

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MckittenMan t1_j6kltoc wrote

Yeah, fuck that noise.

He gave you an indication of subtle interest at a point.

Even though he is in a relationship, and protected by the "we're just friends" label.

I bet her attention feels good to him, even if it is on the smallest level possible.

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Cait_2000 OP t1_j6kng8p wrote

That right there, you've hit the nail on the head. I appreciate you! Needed to hear that honestly.

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MckittenMan t1_j6ko4oh wrote

r/relationship_advice has your back.

Take care now.

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