[deleted] OP t1_j6hfps8 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 10:11 AM

Reply to comment by icanschwim in I (23m) downloaded a dating app after a year of dating 4 months ago and my (23f) girlfriend broke up with me today by [deleted]

To not try would just prove i never did care would it not?

icanschwim t1_j6hg3gn wrote on January 30, 2023 at 10:17 AM

No it doesn't. You've had months after to try and for whatever reason it seems its not enough.

You should have been trying from moment she agreed to get back together. Not from now, because she broke up with you.

[deleted] OP t1_j6hghsc wrote on January 30, 2023 at 10:22 AM

I wasn’t actively going out of my way to prove i was being faithful, not that i feel it wouldve made a difference. i was not aware it was something that was causing her this much grief until she got to her breaking point. Like i said we had talked about it when it happened and got back together, i had assumed she wouldve broken up with me then if it wasn’t something we could come back from

icanschwim t1_j6hjk3o wrote on January 30, 2023 at 11:06 AM

Well you evidently want to "try" whatever that means so just be honest with it. However I don't think you realise that you taking accountability and being faithful isn't enough for a relationship.

It's her choice in the end.

[deleted] OP t1_j6hjvy5 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 11:10 AM

which is why i came here in the first place, obviously i do not want to breakup but im not going to manipulate or try to convince her to stay with me. if its possible to prove to her im capable of earning her trust back then i will do whatever she asks if not then i take the mistakes on my chin. I made the decision i made, there is no undoing it and if it ends up being a painful lesson that’s something i will have to carry with me the rest of my life

icanschwim t1_j6hmi5n wrote on January 30, 2023 at 11:43 AM

>painful lesson that’s something i will have to carry with me the rest of my life

I disagree with this. You've acknowledged it. Now it's time to learn from it. You take it forward by your actions not by holding onto it. A lesson for this relationship (if she wants to continue) but also for the relationships going forward. No good can come from holding onto something like this for the rest of your life.