Submitted by ThrowRAaffair1 t3_1003zrm in relationship_advice
I (30F) think my husband (32m) might want to have an affair
This is my first time posting, so please forgive any mistakes. I’ve changed some details to try to stay anonymous.
A few nights ago, my husband (32m) gave me (30f) his phone so I could order pizza. When I was done, I went to close the app by swiping up, and one of the open apps was Reddit. I knew my husband used Reddit because he shows me funny videos sometimes, but I’m not really familiar with the app.
I wasn’t trying to snoop, but the page that was up was the main page of an affair subreddit and one of the posts was gray. I quickly closed both apps and gave him his phone back.
What I saw made me sick to my stomach, but I didn’t want to jump to conclusions or make accusations, so I didn’t say anything to him. Instead I downloaded the app and made my own account.
I found the subreddit my husband had been on, found the post I had seen, and there was a comment from someone with a username that I thought could be my husband’s. I clicked on it, and now I’m 99% sure it is him.
My husband has commented on a lot of pictures, asked women how long they are in our city for, and has mentioned that he is traveling to a different city and wants to meet up.
I want to talk to him, but I don’t know how to start or even what to say to him. We have talked about fantasies and stuff before, and this has never come up… but maybe he was afraid to share?
I want to know if he has had an affair. I want to know if I need to have an STD test. I just had a baby a few months ago, and I think they checked for STDs in the hospital, but I am not sure. How can I talk to him about this?
TL;DR I found my husband’s Reddit account and think he wants to have an affair. How do I talk to him about this?
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