Submitted by Awkward-Secret4694 t3_1004y4l in relationship_advice
I had two year affair with a married man. The first year was great. He was exciting, thoughtful and kind and the sex was mindblowing. He has a wife and kids which I was completely aware of but I didnt care. I fell in love with him.
A year in, and my married partner started to develop a conscience. He told me he wanted to go back to his wife and family. I did not want to lose him, so did the unthinkable. I took pictures of us having an intimate moment and threatened to expose him if he left me. I also told him that he had to give me a weekly allowance. He has a great job after all. This kept him with me for another year.
All of a sudden. He stopped calling me, changed his number and went off social media. I went to his home and told his wife but she already knew about me and asked me to leave. Then I told his sister about us, she also knew and asked me to never contact her. I told mutuals and the same occured. He basically confessed about the affair to everyone both mine and his friends and returned to his wife.
6 months later, i havent spoken to him or seen him. Though I went of he and his wifes socials and they post family pics like nothing happened and their friends actually like the picture. Its mind boggling and heartbreaking. Its almost like i never happened and wasted two years of my life.
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