Submitted by Big_Pirate2229 t3_zzy4tn in relationship_advice
i (23F) feel like im super boring now with my boyfriend (23M) and don’t know how to bring the spark back
We’ve been talking for about 5 months and in a relationship for 2 months. We had great, fun conversations before and were constantly talking, and it was amazing. But now it seems like I don’t have much to say or like, I’m just being boring.
I’m generally not much of a talker. I like my deep intellectual conversations but other than that I have a hard time just starting random conversations unless it’s just about what I’m doing. I’m not really a gossiper either. I just don’t know what to talk about anymore and I feel like I’m starting to bore him.
He’s the opposite. He’s a big talker, always looking for conversation with random people. When he and his friends are talking, they seem like they have so much fun, but when it’s just us, he just doesn’t light up like he does with them.
I feel like I’m just a boring person, and that he’ll eventually just get tired of me and want to leave. I don’t know how to change.
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